Auto news on Youtube Oct 29 2018

Oh hi!

I'm BogusRed from PaperDemon.com.

Today I'm gonna talk to you about why self-confidence is killing your

motivation and how to fix it.

I'm gonna tell you why self-confidence is

important to be a productive artist.

What the causes of poor self-confidence are.

And some solutions to help you build more self-confidence.

So why is self-confidence important for becoming a

better artist?

If you have low self-esteem it's going to impact your

motivation.

Your motivation to work on your art to get better to put in the

effort is going to be impacted.

When you work on your motivation and your

self-confidence together these two things feed off of each other.

Another reason to care about your

self-confidence is that the quality of your artwork will improve when you have

more self-confidence.

I don't know if you've noticed this but when I sit down

to draw if I'm feeling confident before I begin the quality of the artwork I

produce usually ends up being better than on days when I'm feeling really

crummy about myself.

Another reason you should care about your self-confidence is

it'll help you get better at art faster.

How does this work?

If you're more confident you'll create more art and the

more art you create the better you'll get faster.

It's all about practice we gotta practice practice practice and

then we get better.

So what are some causes?

What are the things that are making us feel shitty about ourselves?

Past failures is really one of them.

Like if you've had a lot of failure in your past, even if it doesn't have to do with

art like maybe it's with homework or schoolwork especially those of us with

ADHD have had many past failures in our lives and that impacts our

self-confidence in our ability to create more art.

so for example if you've started many projects in the past and

didn't finish many of them that's probably going to negatively impact your

self-confidence and then in turn prevent you from creating more art.

I don't know about you, but I've started a bajillion

projects and haven't finished most of them.

those are all failures.

another reason you may be struggling with self-confidence is because of your

mental health.

obviously if you've got ADHD, depression anxiety these types of

mental health challenges really do impact our self-confidence in a big way.

for example you may have a lot of negative thoughts in your head

about yourself, about your ability to work, about your ability to do schoolwork,

about your ability to take care of your home.

whatever it is those impact our self-confidence.

each one of those thoughts chips away at it.

another reason is "perfectonism".

I mean "perfectionism."

now some artists will tell you that perfectionism is a really good

thing to have, that it will help you produce better quality art. and maybe

that works for some people but I think for most of us who are in this audience

that struggle with mental health perfectionism is actually a bad thing.

here's an example of how perfectionism has stopped me in the past from creating

art.

I for a long time really wanted to create a pasta bowl for my husband like

paint it with my artwork on it because we eat a lot of pasta, although not so

much now because we're on a little carb diet but we still indulge every once in

a while.

so I've been wanting to create this for him for years and I never got

around to doing it and it wasn't because I didn't have the time it was more that

I figured it probably wasn't gonna come out the way that I wanted, so why even

bother creating it. and I finally realized hey that's perfectionism if you

think: "oh I'm not gonna do this thing because it's not gonna turn out perfect"

that's not helping you.

perfectionism is not helping you in that case, it's just preventing you from creating.

And I'm proud to say that I did finally last Christmas, I created this

wonderful pasta bowl for my husband with with some of my characters on it and

with Mario on it and "shit pickle".

like it turned out awesome: I'm really happy with

how this turned out and it's a shame that I didn't do it sooner because I

could have been creating a lot more of these sorts of things.

anyway I'm really proud of myself because I defeated my

perfectionism and created this awesome thing for my husband.

and another thing that holds us back is comparing

ourselves to others.

many of us do this where we see another artist who's so

much better than us and then we're like "why even bother trying like there's so

much better" and that's holding us back.

alright, so what are some solutions to these problems that I've outlined.

number one: if you do have a mental health

challenge please get treatment for it if you aren't already.

getting treatment for your mental health has a huge impact on your

self-confidence, so just doing that alone is going to be a huge start for you. and

I think it's hard for some of us to prioritize that because we think it's

not that important, but it really is, it affects every aspect of our lives and if

we are working hard on treating it we are more likely to be self-confident.

sometimes we just have to acknowledge that self-care will help us to help

other people better.

and your art really depends on it

your art depends on you taking care of yourself.

another solution is to change the metric of success.

what do I mean by this? so artists often will judge their

level of success based on how good the art is after they've completed it. and

that's one way to do it but the reality is we're gonna create a lot of crappy

drawings, we're gonna create a lot of crappy art not every art we create is

going to look good.

it just happens.

it's part of the process and if we're creating crappy art and we're using

quality as a measure of success our self-confidence is going to suffer.

so what we need to do is change with that

metric of successes.

for example, instead of judging success based on how good the

art is after you're done with it measure success as how frequently your drawing

or how many minutes of drawing or art you've gotten in or how many pieces of

artwork you've completed.

another way to help you with your self-confidence is to

celebrate your success.

so if you've changed your metric of success to say

drawing five times a week and you've actually completed that, will tell a

friend about it.

let your friends help you build your self-confidence!

let them be a means of encouraging you and helping, helping you with your

confidence.

another way to celebrate your success is to join a community.

actually with PaperDemon we have a community here of other artists who are

also trying to build more positive mindset. we have a discord server and we

even have a specific channel dedicated to celebrating success, where we each

share: "hey I did this thing or I did another thing and I did it". you know we

give each other positive encouragement and say "way to go, good job".

this may seem small but it actually has a positive effect; it's worth doing.

also we do have a monthly meetup where we all

meet live in real time and chat about our art.

we just had a meet-up this last weekend where we were all sharing

our success and celebrating our success with participating in inktober.

so we all had different metrics of success, you

know inktober is normally drawing every day for 31 days.

which is really difficult to do so many of us set

different expectations or metrics of success.

for me it was five drawings for the month and instead of 31. and then we

celebrated that and got you know encourage one another with the progress

that we've made.

our community is most active on our Discord server so check

it out there's a link in the description below I'd love it if you'd join us and

celebrate your success with us.

the fourth solution I'm gonna give you is to

rewire your mindset: to produce more positive thoughts to help you to feel

more confident about yourself and your artwork. and I'm gonna cover that in the

next video because this one's already getting kind of long and I know you

wanted to go back to watching your anime.

so what metric of success are you going to use for your art?

let me know in the comments below.

and do you know someone else is struggling with self-confidence with

their artwork, share this video with them.

and don't forget to Like and subscribe and all that jazz. and check out the

description below.

I've got more resources for you to help you with

your building yourself confidence.

thanks for watching, bye.

For more infomation >> Why self confidence is KILLING your motivation to create art and how to fix it - Duration: 8:19.

-------------------------------------------

Можно ли иммигрировать по атлантическому пилоту как self employed? - Duration: 2:23.

For more infomation >> Можно ли иммигрировать по атлантическому пилоту как self employed? - Duration: 2:23.

-------------------------------------------

Self Improvement In 4 Easy Steps - NLP Coaching - Duration: 10:30.

how do you know if you're improving stay tuned hey this is Damon from NLP

gym bringing you cutting-edge neuro linguistic programming tools and

techniques to help you create the life that you desire so if that sounds good

please click subscribe to this YouTube channel so you can get these videos on a

regular basis so you're in the personal development you're into improving

yourself you want to be the best version of yourself that's too vague that's part

of the problem with trying to improve yourself to develop yourself and not

really knowing if it's working because that idea of just improving yourself is

not clear enough not specific enough so what happens when you start to chunk

this down and get very specific about where in your life do you want to

improve so being the best version of yourself okay where in your life do you

want to be a better version or what would the best version of you look like

and sound like now you can go with that there's the swish pattern' which is very

effective and uses that concept of using an image of the ideal you and that could

be very helpful but when you're really getting down to how do I know that I'm

improving how do I measure this you have to get specific about where in your life

you want to improve and the areas of you that you want to improve you you have to

get you have to hone in on that and chunk that down so it might be your

career so what would be being the best version of yourself in your career and

what would improvement look like what would it sound like what would you be

doing differently if I were to watch that movie of you improving in your

career what would I see what would I hear this is where you start to get very

specific and when I say specific I'm talking about connecting with sensory

based experience until you do that it's very very conceptual and if it's really

conceptual and unclear it's really hard to measure and it's really hard to know

if you're actually improving once you can be more specific about the different

areas where you want to improve and I'm not saying at all that you need to only

have one you can have three four or five areas of your life where you want to

improve you just need to get more specific and chunk that down and see it

and hear it like what is the sensory based experience not just a conceptual I

want to be better or what does better actually look like so once you have this

specific stone and you know where in your life you want to improve you know

what that looks like you know what that sounds like you need to reach down deep

into your unconscious and find out what's motivating this what is your why

that's a common way of phrasing it what is your big why to me it's values its

what are your values and for most of us for most of us this is deeply

unconscious what's really motivating us a lot of times is very very unconscious

so you want to go in there and ask yourself with each one of these what's

important to me about improving in this area or doing this or doing that what's

important to me about this and what is it what is this going to do for me and

you just keep asking these questions and you go deeper and deeper and deeper and

then you go to the you would lead you to these really high level values like

happiness peace joy passion creativity and when you start doing that and you

start connecting these high level values of yours to the area of your life to the

activity to what you see in your mind to what you hear in your mind this just

loads this with so much meaning for you and it will also get you motivated

you'll want to move in this direction because it's exciting the idea of

fulfilling your values living your values this is what pure motivation is

about and once you have a visual and the auditory and the kinesthetic attached to

all this meaning look out this is when things start to get really interesting

your life starts to improve rapidly the next thing you need to do is have a way

to measure your progress if you're not clear about that if you say well I don't

know how to measure my progress and what it is that I want or where I want to

improve then you're not very clear about what you want to improve go back to step

one which is getting clear and getting specific about what it is that you want

it should be very clear at this at this stage stage three which is being able to

measure your results so let's say you want to be the best version of yourself

and the best version of yourself is someone who is physically healthy well

if you just say something like well I want to eat better I want to eat

healthier again that's way too vague what does that actually mean what are

you actually going to eat how many meals a day are you going to eat or are you

going to track calories what kind of foods will you be eating that maybe you

weren't you're not eating now so getting very specific about that it

down to like what how much what do you want to lose what do you want your blood

pressure to be out what do you want your cholesterol to be had these are the type

of specifics that I'm talking about when you're this specific it's easy to

measure you go get your cholesterol your your your blood sugar your blood

pressure test and see where you're at right now

talk to your doctor where where it would be what would be a healthy levels and

all three of these for you between where you are now and where you want to be

that's how you measure the progress very very simple if it's weight you weigh

yourself on the scale today you know how much weight you want to lose and then

you know if I'm weighing yourself daily or almost daily how to measure your

progress so again with the measuring your progress and this is essential you

need to have a way to measure your progress otherwise you don't know if

you're improving like I said being very specific will make measuring your

progress very very easy and again if you if you're not sure how to measure the

progress you're not clear enough go back to step one last but not least is when

do you want this so you want to set sort of a deadline sort of a timeframe you

got to be careful with this one because you can if you if you try to squeeze

something in that is really not going to happen like

it'sit's you would all have to overwhelm yourself push yourself too hard or

you're not really aware of what it takes to get the kind of kind of improvement

that you want this can take longer and then when you initially set out to and

it can feel discouraging if you don't do it in the time that you set so you want

to set a realistic timeframe and you also want to have give yourself some

room to breathe on this one if you're if you're trying to improve in a way that

you've never improved before you're doing something completely new you're

gonna have to give yourself some room to breathe on this because it could take

longer and you don't want to discourage yourself so be realistic about this one

but you want to have some sort of timeframe some sort of deadline because

otherwise there's no urgency and you're not likely to do it

so set a timeframe of when you want this and the other piece that most people

miss on this one is think of an exit plan and you might be taking an exit

plan why would I want to exit improving myself and the reason for this is how

long do you want to keep this up in this area so there's all these

different ways in which you can improve yourself and all these areas in your

life where that you want to improve if you only stick to one two or three

you're kind of neglecting other parts of your life you're neglecting other parts

of you so you want to get you want to have an idea of how much you want to

improve in a certain area and then know exactly where that is so maybe it's lose

the twenty pounds well if you lose twenty pounds and that puts you right at

the weight you want to be and what your doctor says is healthy you don't want to

keep losing weight you need to stop you need to exit that plan exit that

strategy and move into a maintenance plan then the plan then becomes how do I

maintain my weight not how do I lose more weight so what happens for a lot of

people is they lose they lose the weight they don't have an exit plan they don't

have a strategy now they know they don't want to lose any more weight so they

they just kind of let go of a plan they end up gaining all the way back because

they don't have a plan they don't have a strategy they just know that they need

to stop losing weight so that's a good example of exiting

okay I need to stop losing weight maintenance how do I maintain this

weight how much do I need to eat what do I need to eat how much do I need to

exercise to just maintain this so the same goes for every other every area of

your life where you want to improve know how good you want to get or how much you

want to improve that area and then say okay at this point I exit and I go into

a maintenance plan at this point I exit and then I go to this other area of my

life that I need to improve and then go work on that so have it so know when you

want the improvement you would know when you want to be how good it is you want

to be or how much you want how much improved you want to be and then exit

and switch to maintenance plan or go to another area of your life have something

that there is a have an end point at some point and then know what you want

to do after that check out my website NLP-Gym.com there you will find some

free NLP training and some free hypnotic inductions you can access these

immediately by just downloading them to your phone your laptop or your tablet

check out NLP Jim on Facebook there you'll get real-time updates on whatever

it is I'm up to if I'm releasing a new training doing a talk in your area or

teaching a workshop you will find it on the NLP gem Facebook page I also have a

private NLP gym Facebook group check that one out as well if you like this

video please click like right down here and of course if you have not subscribed

already please do so now by clicking the subscribe button right down here

take care

For more infomation >> Self Improvement In 4 Easy Steps - NLP Coaching - Duration: 10:30.

-------------------------------------------

SELF DEFENSE TECHNIQUES THAT EVERYONE ELSE SHOULD KNOW - Duration: 3:32.

50 SELF DEFENSE TECHNIQUES THAT EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW

For more infomation >> SELF DEFENSE TECHNIQUES THAT EVERYONE ELSE SHOULD KNOW - Duration: 3:32.

-------------------------------------------

Explanation vs self justification - Duration: 2:30.

Hi!

My name is Andrei Adonis and my question to you is

What can we do, in order to challenge the status quo

on how we see ourselves and other people so that we can become better versions of ourselves?

Today's topic is What is the difference between an

EXPLANATION and SELF-JUSTIFICATION?

When are we explaining something and when are we self-justifying our actions?

The answer is rather simple!

A SELF-JUSTIFICATIONS is when we give an answer to a question that was never asked!

Let us look at some examples.

Let us say that you work in a company and you are

responsible for a project.

Scenario Nr. 1.

Your boss comes to you and says: Dear employee, I've noticed that this project

has come to a stop!

And scenario Nr. 2.

Your boss comes to you and says: Dear employee, I've noticed that this project

has come to a stop.

What has happened?

Do you see the difference?

In the first part, there is an implicit question.

Yet, the question is never asked!

So, what happens to us?

We take the psychological pressure and we feel the need to JUSTIFY our actions.

Why did the project stop...

Who is responsible for it... and What is going to happen...

Instead of doing that, we could just simply say

Yes, the project has stopped.

We are working on it and t will start next week.

If the question is asked by your boss, Why it has stopped? or What has happened?

then you can proceed to give an EXPLANATION to what has happened.

It has stopped because of such and such and such reasons

and this is what it is going to happen.

These are the actions that we are going to take.

This is the difference between an EXPLANATION

and a SELF-JUSTIFICATION.

So, I would like to invite you, in the future, not to fall in the SELF-JUSTIFICATION trap.

Wait for the question to be asked!

And if the question is not asked, ASK the question yourself.

What do you mean? or What do you want to know?

If you like this video or you found it useful, Like, Share and Subscribe!

For more infomation >> Explanation vs self justification - Duration: 2:30.

-------------------------------------------

The Sims 4 News Bit: NOVEMBER PATCH PREVIEW, SELF-EMPLOYMENT, AND MORE! - Duration: 6:25.

hey everyone it's Alexis from Sims VIP I hope you're all doing well so welcome to

another Sims 4 news bit video now before I begin I've on you just wanna let you

guys know that I've put some towels around my microphone this time so

hopefully it doesn't sound as equity as the last video I am actually traveling

and the place I'm at is not really good for recording with that said today we're

catching up on the latest news from the sims 4 so let's jump in first up let's

catch up with the sims Mobile so the trick-or-treat Halloween event is

available for a limited time giving players 10 days to complete the

necessary steps that will reward them with the final Mystics table reward this

event also grants candy corn for completing every day and event related

tasks and is the required currency to purchase the various new halloween

create a sim and build and buy items to check out a step-by-step guide on

completing this quest head over to sims VIP calm next up let's check out what's

coming with the next game patch I know we've all been waiting for this and the

time has come so with all the new information released from the sims 4 get

famous Sims camp event last week many of the attendees gave us information

regarding the upcoming November game patch let's go ahead and recap on all

the goodies that are coming to our game soon first is terrain manipulation now

the sims team already confirmed this feature some time ago but we now have

some additional info bits from attendees some of what is mentioned is that Sims

will be able to go uphill if the terrain isn't too steep and after having some

hands-on time with the actual tools they have stated that the tools are pretty

easy to use next is the style influencer career this is yet another feature that

they announced some time ago and this new career will allow sims to work from

home or head off into a rabbit hole next is a revamped game tutorial so polish

fansite Dotson confirm that the sims 4 will be receiving a brand new game

tutorial that includes a narrator who dives deep into the features of the game

now this option can be turned off at any time and it will greet you at the start

of your new game next are some minor UI changes so polish fan site dot sim once

again confirmed that the game patch is going to bring some changes to the UI so

for example aspirations and create-a-sim will now be square instead of circular

and the magnifying glass that appears when you're zooming out in the

has been replaced with a car icon now it's been confirmed that they're not

working on cars but it's kind of hard to believe that they're not when they add

all these little hints in the game next up is the ability for Simms to label

themselves a self-employed this one really made me happy so popular Sims

youtuber Vic's Ella confirmed in her overview video that the patch is going

to add the ability for sims to register a custom career also known as

self-employment now the way this works is Sims will select the new register

with Ministry of Labor interaction on their cell phone and then they can fill

in the blanks on this pop-up that appears there's no specific skills or

actions that are tied to these careers but it does allow your sims to freelance

and not be labeled as unemployed next is the world selection menu that we talked

about in the last video so push fan site dot sim confirm that the world selector

menu is getting a much needed upgrade as well the world icons are gonna be

decreased in size and a while for a better overview of the worlds and last

but not least something new now dot sim has also indicated that the Sims team

will be adding another new feature to the game with the patch but we're not

gonna know what that is until Maxis reveals it during the next Maxis monthly

livestream on November 6 now speaking of this secret something

during the first official get famous livestream last week sim gurus went into

live mode and quickly closed out a challenge pop-up similar to those that

are seen in the past with Jasmine Holliday now it's unknown what this

challenge is gonna bring to the game but we do know that it's at least 40 days

long and it's called the quote positivity challenge now it's unclear

whether this is what that special something dot sim was talking about so

we'll just have to wait and see when this thing is gonna end up in the game

now last but not least since Sims News is an update to the ball pit that was

released last year with the sims 4 toddler stuff so when the sims 4 Tyler

stuff was released one of the biggest issues for many players was the visual

appearance of the functional ball pit now just a few weeks after it was

released Maxis released the game patch to address the flat texture and improve

the appearance now during the get famous Sims camp event in London 10 days ago

popular Sims youtuber the sim Supply joined sim guru Graham in a real life

ball pit to discuss the real story behind the sims for toddler stuffs ball

pit scandal now during the interview sim gurugram states that the original plan

for the jungle gym was for it to be a fully modular jungle gym now this

created an issue down the road before release where the entire model needed to

be reconstructed in order to be released as functional so what happened is in the

end the texture of the ball pit suffered but they did eventually fix it now over

on Twitter for the first time Simcoe Graham gave us a look at the original

toddler jungle gym that he mentioned during the interview you can see that it

originally was intended to look like three different pieces but was actually

one single object he stated that the tunnel piece was envisioned more for

venues than home Lots but that was another aspect of the original version

that they felt was important to adjust as you can see this issue caused the

item to be reconstructed in order to ship without causing issues for players

so we never did get the original plan for the jungle gym but at least sim guru

granth took the time to share some background on what happened with that

ball pit he then concluded on Twitter with a few tweets stating the following

as I touched on in the interview we had some ambitious goals for this path as we

work through technical implementation challenges work between various

disciplines was getting out of sync resulting in an object that didn't

really behave the way you'd expect you in a sin looking back I learned

important lessons that made me a stronger producer moving for chiefly

making a difficult decision that burdens the team but is ultimately necessary for

our players doesn't absolve us if that results in quality control slipping

elsewhere ultimately I am happy that we were able to patch it quickly to get

everyone more balls and quite proud of the team for rallying around the

requested changes to make something even better so at least we were able to get

the real story behind what happened with the awful texture of this ball pit be

sure to go and check out the sim supplies interview with sim gurugram

over on his channel and that wraps up today's news big video be sure to leave

me a comment down below and let me know your thoughts as usual everything I've

mentioned in this video is linked in the description below head over to Sims VIP

comm for the latest news on the sins as always I hope you all enjoyed this video

and we will talk soon bye guys

For more infomation >> The Sims 4 News Bit: NOVEMBER PATCH PREVIEW, SELF-EMPLOYMENT, AND MORE! - Duration: 6:25.

-------------------------------------------

Find yourself - A Self Discovery Journey - Introduction to the Guided Meditations - Duration: 5:08.

Find yourself, a journey of self discovery. An introduction.

Hi guys welcome to becoming a better you by Skeed. This is an introductory video

so please watch this video if you're going to go on this undertaking this

journey with me of these meditations this is going to be a massive massive

undertaking on my part so really hope you like them you share them comment on

them as I said it's gonna be in theory it's probably gonna be about 80

meditations long how long do you spend on each meditation is entirely up to you

it depends on how much you resonate with each meditation you might find listening

once to one is enough and you might find others you spend weeks on them before

moving further on this is something that I've discovered I've been working

through myself and now I feel ready it's time to share them with you because it

is amazing it's an amazing thing it is walking the walk rather than talking the

talk I want to keep these meditations short I

still don't know exactly how they how long they're gonna be I'm gonna try and

keep them under or around 20 minutes long so when you do them I'm going to

assume you're ready to do them you're in a comfortable place you are wearing the

right clothes etc etc exception you've got your phones away so you're not going

to be distracted at the time you're going to be doing these meditations

every time I'm going to use the same introduction to get us into a nice

meditative state simply because that way the more you use

this sort of it's almost like in a hypnotic induction the more you use it

the more powerful it will become and the quicker you can get there so we can make

these videos shorter and it takes less time to actually do the meditation now I

say meditation they are meditations but they are contemplations

of thoughts and ideas I am going to call them guided meditations simply for the

reason that that is what people most commonly call them people don't sort of

call meditations contemplations and they don't call contemplations contemplation

as they call them meditations so therefore I will be calling them guided

meditations but understand we are contemplating certain ideas therefore

actually there contemplations so I really hope you get as much out of doing

these as I am getting out of them they are as I said wonderful that's why I

want to share them with you so if you like them please share them with people

so as many people can get this information as possible and so as many

people can follow their paths as possible

okay without further ado that's it thank you very much I will see you in

these meditations they're going to take time to do said it's I estimate it's

gonna be around 80 videos so it is a long process as I said whether you love

some and decide to stay with some for a couple of weeks it could extend now for

you to cover all the material it could be a year you might go through it much

much faster so I hope you enjoy them and that's it click the like button on the

video comment on this one on the videos throughout the process and okay well

further ado let's get started with them they will be just to let you know they

will be numbered so you know the order you don't have to do them in that

specific order of course you're free to do them however you want I would

recommend personally doing them all in order I've done them in order because

they do grow on each other so if you jump to number 10 and you start at

number 10 you will be missing a lot of other information you might find you

decide to skip a couple and then come back or you might go through them in

order and then come back and that's entirely up to you as I said my

recommendation is to do them in order okay right that's it thank you very much

and I will see you in the meditations