going through several stages we talked about self-awareness Who am I asking
that central question in one's life looking at your strengths and your
weaknesses getting some evaluation determining what it is you want out of
life then we went to the next level of self what self approval approving
yourself to do the things that you'd like to do and going after the dreams
that you like to go after and we know when we don't approve of our dreams
because of the fact that they stay up in our minds we don't act on them we
procrastinate we come up with a variety of excuses on why we're not going into
action and then the next level is what self commitment going for that dream
going for those goals deciding to do the things that are necessary to bring about
the changes that we want to bring in our lives or what we want to bring in
society and then after that we are now to this level and this stage is what
self fulfillment because when you are involved in commitment when you are
implementing your plan of action you're going to produce some results you're
going to have some victories that you can feel good about and it's a time of
celebration so what happens when you hit the level of self fulfillment first of
all what we want to know is that self fulfillment is unending and should be
viewed in that context Robert Schuller says it best when he says success is
never ending so it means that we never get to a level where we feel that
there's nothing else for us to do that we've achieved certain number of goals
and we figure that we're through no no you don't want to stay there and
celebrate too long like a lot of people do they do something they consider
outstanding they go around talking about what they used to do see let me tell you
I used to do this and I used to do that excuse me used to beans don't make no
honey
what are you doing now what have you done for me lately you don't go around
telling me about what you used to do and who you used to be what does that count
for now nothing what are you doing now you're still here breathing that means
you've got some more to give doesn't matter how old you are doesn't matter
about where you are doesn't matter about what you have doesn't matter about what
you've done life is about growing it's about being
productive is about stretching is about challenging yourself so you start
looking around and decide hey hey what else do I want to do what got me here is
a time for celebration but also a time for reflection what got me here what
worked what did not work what do I need to do to repeat so that I can get the
same kind of results in other areas of my life if the goal is to improve my
health if the goal is to improve my relationship if the goal is to improve
my income if the goal is to improve something in society what is it I need
to do now don't get confused with what you do with who you are don't trip don't
go on some type of ego trip are talking about how bad you are none of us do
anything by ourselves develop an appreciation for external support as
well as good fortune because all of those things play a role the other thing
is don't go overboard celebrating at the Kipling says it best you must meet with
triumph and disaster and treat those two Impostors just the same you look at hey
I did it I feel good about that now you're moving on to the next thing
things did not work out the way you wanted them to work out you didn't
produce the results you wanted to produce hey miss that win some you lose
them next moving right on don't confuse who
you are with what you do let's go on to the next level looking in that
particular area you return to the area of self-assessment you start looking at
yourself and evaluating yourself now what are some of the elements or the
characteristics of the qualities of people who are for
who live a life of fulfillment what are some of the things we can look at about
them I think number one make your mind fertile ground for the seeds of
opportunity think if you want to experience a sense of fulfillment you've
got to have an open mind so that ideas can come in there and take root and
growth so part of beginning to have fertile ground you know you got to break
that ground up you got to break up that hard crust because if you don't see to
fall there and the wind can blow them away the winds of doubt when you're set
in your mind and you refuse to grow and you're not open to new ideas
new methods new ways of doing things if your mind is already fixed
you become stagnant you can't grow you can't have a sense of fulfillment you
become extremely cynical and negative about everything you know it all so you
want to begin to look at life and have a sense of curiosity not know it all you
want to keep learning keep growing realize that we had a theme you never
find out how much you know until you find out how little you know and there
are some people you can't tell anything they have all the answers oh I've
already done that I heard the engine was telling me he said he was on a plane and
he was observing two men talking and he the guy was reading a magazine he looked
at the guy next to him say would you like to read this magazine I'm sure this
magazine I have know I read that before don't like it don't like it okay so he
had a newspaper he said uh what about the USA Today no I read that before
don't like that either try that once don't like that so they serve them some
food and he said would you care to have anything I have here because the guy was
needing no no tried that before I don't like that and you know this guy I only
had one child
what Larry's trying to say that a lot of people go through life free judging
things how many of you don't like buttermilk raise your hands please how
many of you raise your hands that never tastes about a bill please
and I want over I just don't like the way it looks all right I might be
missing out on something all right so many of us count ourselves out of things
prematurely you don't know what the possibilities are up in there so you
want to be open you want to continue to learn you want to continue to grow you
want to begin to know that their unlimited ideas out here waiting for you
to latch onto them and if you don't take advantage of them when they come your
way because you're so closed-minded do understand somebody else will and we've
all had ideas then we did not act on and looked around and somebody else had the
idea and gone with it so be open and receptive next thing in order to live a
fulfilling life become involved in life live your fantasy most people go through
life not living their fantasy going sitting up in the bleachers looking out
on the field looking out into the arena wishing that they were down there just
fantasizing seeing themselves running with the ball I used to do that I used
to always see myself at a basketball game one second to go Les Brown comes
down court he looks just right looks to his love he's the only one that can do
it doosh the basket goes in les saved us
and people take me up and carried me off but I never would out it did it decide
to live your fantasy see in life you can go through life you can come up with
reasons or you can come up with results you can come up with excuses or you can
come up with achievements you can go through life blaming or you can come up
with solutions the choice is in your hands satisfaction or despair we can
choose that so look at your life and decide what it is that you want to do
that will give you a life a sense of Worth someone said yet your life worth
is measured by your accomplishments and not by your complaints you want to have
a fulfilling life not to make your life predictable so
some people their lives very predictable they got a little routine they do that
and they follow that day in and day out day in and day out you don't get much
juice and Happiness out of life like that if you are predictable you want to
change it up variety most certainly is the spice of life here's something else
one it created greater sense of fulfillment challenge your fears
challenge them look those fears in the face and take them on don't allow them
to rule you decide that you're going to take some chances friend of mine by the
name of Adrian he's that one day he decided to have a day of challenge so he
and a friend went to Cedar Point
he's always been afraid of certain rides so he said on this particular day he
said he decided that he was going to go on the most dangerous rides at Cedar
Point so they went around looking at all the
rides and so the young lady that he was whips and said that's the one there
that's it she said why that one he said well she said ah I read about it in the
newspaper said two people were killed last year on that he said yes that's the
one I want that's the one you know so he got in the line instead of the long line
had to wait in line for about two hours an agent said while he was in line and
as they start getting closer he said he stopped doubting him said well maybe I
should not do this maybe so she says no come on get back in line he said no no
no no no I changed my mind I don't want to do this I don't have to have the most
dangerous ride he said he's not visualizing himself being thrown out of
this big ride and his name on the front page of the newspaper after being
splattered against the wall or something so he just started saying no I don't
want to do it but his friend insisted no come on Adrian we said we were going to
do it we're going to confront our fears today come on just stand on it so he
kept on he stated his argument with her the whole time they got up there and the
guy said okay next he said no no I just decided to change my mind she said come
on she pushed him they went there and he got in a little seed and they strapped
him in and as they begin to move he's the wait a minute I want to
but it was too late said it's not taking love he says Oh No please please I got a
bad heart let me out and he was up then he was gone he said he screamed all
through that right his friend was laughing you know we came off before
they finished he'd lost his posture when he got up he was gumming it yeah but
Adrienne said les when I got off he said I walked a little taller and he said he
felt good inside and what it makes he said 'yes and hey it wasn't that bad
after all and we've all had experiences things and we dread doing and when we
finally did it we say hey was as bad as I thought it was going to be raise your
hand if you ever had that experience before hey hey hey I just thought I'll
die if I did this I didn't die I'm still here
ladies and gentlemen that's that's what most people miss out of life you've got
to be willing to risk if you're not willing to risk you can't grow in life
life has no power when you're not willing to risk somebody wrote this and
it was given to me it's that to laugh is to risk appearing the fool to weep is to
risk appearing sentimental to reach out for another is to risk involvement to
expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self to place your ideas your
dreams before crowd is to risk their loss to love is to risk not being loved
in return to live is to risk dying to hope is to
risk despair to tries to risk failure but risk must be taken because the
greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing the person who risks nothing
does nothing has nothing is nothing they may avoid suffering in sorrow but they
cannot learn feel change grow and live chained by their certitudes
they are a slave they have forfeited their freedom only a person who risked
is free a reminded of a missionary who had gone to Africa to work with a
certain tribe they were called the headhunters and there was a reporter
observing him and for a long period of time he had a limited relationship with
him they would not take him in and he said because he was tentative and
hesitant and fearful he didn't want to risk having a relationship with him
because he didn't want to mess around and have his hair take it off
he had this fear and obviously it showed and the tribesman sensed it say one
night he was sleeping and he made a decision because the reporter came back
and saw him and he had an incredible relationship with the tribesman these
headhunters you guys say what happened how did you convert the distance the
hostility into a warm close relationship he said I had a dream one night I was
thinking and and he said I dreamed said what will you know what's my passion
what's my life goal he's always wanted to be a missionary and he said this is
the work I loved and said in the dream he asked himself how much do you love it
I said I'm willing to die for this dream and he said he thought about that we
woke up but he loved doing this so much that if it was in fact his passion that
it was as in fact his life work he's willing to die for it and so therefore
he said he had no longer any fear of death and he went in there and started
working with them and obviously they picked that up and he said something
else that was profound he said when you no longer fear dying
what else can life threaten you with what else
see when when you are willing to risk all of it when you making that kind of
commitment somebody always defined commitment I love it so the next time
you have bacon and eggs look at it say the chicken was involved but the pig was
committed he had to give it all up see when you willing to give it all up
yes that's what life is so you've got to be willing to give it all up when you're
willing to to throw it all on the line that's when life takes on a whole new
dimension so most people won't do that they won't risk that so decide to take
some risk you want to break the routine most people go through life following
that routine and we know that that is a living death going through life playing
it safe is it like a breathing coughs because the only way that you can grow
you've got to risk the only way that you can become your best you have got to
risk you got to challenge yourself you've got to venture into the unknown
you got to take some chances gotta put you on the line so in order to have that
sense of fulfillment getting out of your comfort zone as you get out of your
comfort zone you expand your whole life the more you do the more you realize you
can do you expand your capacity you expand your potential you expand your
horizons you expand your vision of yourself and of life you expand your
participation in life you're involved in life more you'll get
more out of life because you're putting more into life than most people that's
why it's so important that we're willing to take some risks I don't know exactly
what to do it's okay you'll find out you even learn that you're going in the
right direction or the wrong direction and from that you learn you'll get some
feedback the universe will tell you where do I get started just get started
the universe will give you immediate feedback don't worry you hit your head
long enough you get the message lose enough money you'll learn real quick get
enough nuts on your head it'll be all right
here's something else choose to be happy in spite of life's challenges in spite
of life challenges life changes every day sometimes things will be going your
way sometimes things work well for you sometimes it won't work so well
sometimes you have your health you're feeling good and energetic have a yes I
can't attitude and and there's some things that can happen to you in life
that can take all of that from you all of that can go sometimes you might be
financially secure in a sickness once sickness can wipe out an illness
I've always change but you can choose you can choose in the midst of all of
this that's going on to be happy in spite of it and the good times and in
the bad times you can make a choice Viktor Frankl he talks about that he
said the last of the human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set
of circumstances to choose one's own way Douglas Matlock has a poem I love in
title it's fine today is that sure this world is full of trouble I ain't say the
name Lord I've had enough and double reason for complaint rain and storm have
come to fret me skies are often great thorns and brambles have beset me on the
road but say and it fine today what's the use always weep and making trouble
last what's the use of always keeping thinking of the past each must have his
tribulation water with his wine life it ain't no celebration trouble I've had
mine but today is fine it's today that I'm living not a month ago having losing
taken given as time wills it so yesterday our cloud of sorrow fell
across the way it may rain again tomorrow it may rain but say ain't it
fine today if that good I like that
so even if a cloud of sorrow comes over here ain't it fine today living in the
moment getting everything we can out of where we are in the moment where we are
right now living in the present the other thing is willingness to let people
and things go you want to live a life of fulfillment you've got to be willing to
let certain people go in your life especially if they want to go don't get
addicted to material things be willing to let things or people go when they're
no longer good for you just let them go just a whole lawn tenaciously it really
doesn't make really good sense all right just many times we do it because we
don't realize that we might desire it but we don't need it next thing it's
face the truth about life and deal with it and a lot of people when someone in
their life of the love very much dies they allow it to take such a toll on
them they make themselves miserable and they literally will themselves to die
early because they feel without this person they have nothing to look forward
to and no no life has other opportunities other relationships other
experiences for us and the people that we love really want us to go on other
thing is things going to happen to you here in order to have a fulfilling life
knowing that that things are going to happen expect the unexpected
whatever happens to you use everything for your upliftment learning and growth
everything that happens use it for your upliftment learning and grow in the
midst of it s what can I learn from this what can I get from this how did I end
up here what's the blessing in this for me ask
yourself that whatever it is and don't let it go until you get your
blessing out of it because there's a blessing there there's
a lesson there there's something for you in everything that happens to you for
you to learn from that experience look at it examine it analyze it dissect it
take it apart until it reveals itself to you and then get what you need from that
and move on but everything that happens to you have a friend she stutters and I
said are you taking any special classes to stop from stuttering she said no I
said why because it helps my business I said how when I go in to somebody I say
now if you're busy I'll come back because I stutter and there used to say
oh no no you can tell me right now
and then she say well this is my product and she said after she goes through it
if they say no she said well you didn't understand tell you again and she they
say oh no that's all right that's all right don't tell me no more that's all
right just let me know how much I need to give
you so you could get the yellow out of here
so she's turned that stuttering to her advantage
somebody says I mean life give you lemon write yourself a lemon cookbook
everything I have people say to me heya I really feel sorry you know for you the
fast is a shame they labeled you a jerk about mentally retarded I said it's okay
I've told this story before 18 t Procter & Gamble McDonald's Corporation is a
rock they failed a whole lot of money to head what would I have to say if they
hadn't done that you know whatever happens to you turn it to your advantage
so I have now made that a blessing for me as opposed to a handicap
I wouldn't prove them wrong by engaging in self study and consciously working to
develop myself so now they have to ask themselves what were we thinking about
when we labeled this guy what was going on and then there people will look at
miss awaiting it this guy he labeled it what retarding you got him kid if he's
done what he's done what could I do it what I got that's what happens so when I
get them talking in and motivating a sales force they leave they're ashamed
not to be motivated say that retarded guy can do it I know I got to do
something
they're ready to run out the room yeah I got a deuce up up in here oh no no no no
am I making an assistant yeah here's something I encourage you to do whatever
you do do it in a consciousness of love see if if you if you love what you do
and if you decide to love people to make wherever you are in experience of love
just decide to be a loving person regardless if the people you alone are
loving or not just see I've never read anywhere where they say God has love I
never read that what is what how does it go what what is God is love not that God
has love now if we are the children of God we have the offsprings of God then
we are what love see love is not an emotion love is not something you can
give you you can't give love you must be loved you've got to be a loving person
so as you operate in that consciousness and this comes not just overnight with
enlightenment or insight or just someone recommending that but with practice
practice and practice and practice and doing it and doing it and doing it and
working consciously how do you do that how with all of the evil things and evil
people how do you do that well one of the things is we've got to practice to
be non-judgmental to suspend judgment that if you can in the midst of where
you are no gentleman by the name of Jeffrey in Chicago when I go there do my
training he's a quadriplegic he used to be a bitter young man he's involved in a
car accident and is paralyzed cannot move his neck he's quadriplegic complete
used to be very bitter very angry he decided to become a loving person as a
result of Jeffrey's decision Jeffrey's life has taken a dramatic turn he is now
an inspiration and a blessing to other people there people's - wait a minute
and I know one guy in particular was always a cynical negative guy I
introduced him to Jeffrey said if this guy could be Pleasant and loving and
have a smile on his face how can I worry about this little stuff I'm worried
about how can I allow life to get next to me how can I talk about being
depressed when I can get up and move around and walk around and Jeffrey can't
do that if he's confined to this wheelchair Jeffrey has decided and a
spirit of love to make his life a blessing to other people he's going back
to school he writes with a pencil in his mouth he is determined sometimes it
becomes a little frustrated sometimes he does get a little depressed but he
doesn't allow it to keep him there he's a loving spirit you can feel it in his
consciousness just being around him you can look at him and feel good inside
he's an inspiration to the people that come in contact with his life that's a
decision that he has made and I feel that we can all make that decision and
through practice practice of being lovey and giving out what we want that we can
become that kind of person in spite of the circumstances Emmitt Fox said love
is absolutely invincible he said that there is no difficulty that enough love
will not conquer no disease that enough love will not heal no door that enough
love will not open no golf that enough love will not bridge no wall that enough
love will not throw down no sin that enough love will not redeem it makes no
difference how deeply seated maybe trouble how hopeless the outlook how
muddled the tangle how great the mistake a sufficient realization of love will
dissolve it all if only you could love enough you would be the happiest and
most powerful being in the world and it ends it in a scripture that says God is
love and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God and God in him decide to
be a loving experience in life at whatever work you have to do do it
lovingly then whatever relationships that you have just decide to be more
loving more giving more caring more concerned more sensitive than you've
ever been before but what if you don't get it back it would be great if you get
it back it would be great but don't count on it you might get it back and
you might not but don't let someone else determine who you're going to be be who
you are give what you want why because you want it back no do it because that's
who you are do it because that's how you've decided to live your life do it
because it gives your life a sense of fulfillment and Worth and self-respect
when we get off sinner when we allow people or circumstances to determine
whether or not we are loving because of the way they treat us or because of what
we are experiencing then we are not operating at cause in our lives we are
not controlling our destiny we're not determining what happens to us and for
us and that's the power that we have been given the power to choose ye this
day whom you you serve who you serve those negative feelings and emotions
anybody can hate anybody can be revengeful some people rather get
revenge than get ahead in life anybody can do that anybody can hold a grudge
doesn't take any greatness on that don't need any motivation in the
courage men to hold a grudge have some resentment in your heart and some
bitterness but the real challenge about growth and moving into your greatness
it's about being who you are being true to you I say as you look at life here's
something I like what Charles Fillmore said at age 94 i fairly sizzle with zeal
and enthusiasm as I spring forth with a mighty faith to do the things that ought
to be done by me I spring forth with a mighty faith to do the things that ought
to be done by me and I say as you go toward your goals and your dreams spring
forth with a mighty faith to write the book that ought to be written by you to
sing the song that ought to be sung by you to start the business that ought to
be started by you to help the people that ought to be
helped by you to make the difference in our society that ought to be made by you
determine what is my life work what is the work that I ought to do how is it
that I can make my life a great experiment how is it that I can make the
contribution that I showed up to give something that when I go to sleep at
night I can feel good within myself and know that I've given life my very best
and one last step I think in the area of self fulfillment and that is that you
must live in a spirit and an attitude of gratitude
there's so many things ladies and gentlemen that we take for granted so
many things as I look at my life there are a lot of things I knew I I could
have done and I haven't done them but I've also done some things and I'm
thankful a lot of things that we need to be thankful for their big things they're
little things I'm thankful for my health I'm thankful for my children thankful
for my mother I'm thankful for you I'm thankful for for the life that I live
and for the people who have enriched my life who have contributed to my being
Who I am
and as I look at my life and I was up like three o'clock in the morning and
sometimes just laying in the bed staring at the ceiling thinking I just said
thank you Lord when I look back on my life I've come a mighty long ways and
even if I don't reach my goals I'm thankful thank you very much
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