Jim one of our students Darlene emailed and asked that we talk about this thing
called overwhelm and how does it happen and how do we get out of it.
So overwhelm. You just avoid everything in life -become an introvert -you don't talk to people you
stay away and it's easy. Go live in the mountain in a cave. Easy. Easy. You can do that. Now what else should we talk
about? So when I what I notice about overwhelm is it's the external
environment that creeps into a person's space. It's kind of like it water in the
cracks of a sidewalk and then it freezes -yeah -and it cracks the sidewalk so many times
it seeps in to places that we're not even conscious of. Yeah so in a lot
of ways it's just too much without noticing it's too much. It's too much so
in social situations maybe and loud music situations it can be it can feel
overwhelming when there's all that external stimulation. Yeah so what's the
what's also a nature of a person that gets into overwhelm? Not a good or bad
but a lot of times I watch doers. I've got to do or I'm gonna make them happy
I've got to do it right. Whatever format that is and there's no there's no alarm
there's no trigger that says oh wait I got a reset I got to stop I got to
ground I just got a walk outside for a minute that reset button. So they're in
it before they even notice they're in it. I think so I've noticed that with people
they just know so why are you doing all that there's probably multiple reasons.
There's no why. There's no why. Yeah so it's it's the doer it's a person
who doesn't have really good boundaries sometimes. It's a person who gives up their
seniority. It's a person that is doesn't want to disappoint other people so they
keep doing or they take on things. They put themselves into situations where
there's a should. Many times. I should go to this party. Yeah or I or I'm expected.
Mm-hmm. Or they'll be disappointed if I don't. So
I think there's a lot of different circumstances that people get into.
But I know that if you if you're that kind of a person it pay it has a lot of
value to basically recognize I'm that kind of a person. Nothing good or bad and -well recognize
that's the situation -yeah -that I have these feelings in. Or I find myself in. Yeah.
Or and I just had an experience I'm overwhelmed. Gee I'm doing this again I'm
getting tired of this is kind of the response that's oh okay well what did
you do to get yourself in that situation. It's like we were talking to that
elementary school teacher the other day and she was saying that she's retired
now but during the last few years of teaching she would come home exhausted. Yeah.
And overwhelmed. Yeah and in her case she didn't have any
tools. No. And she was wanting to do it right. And she thought she got home and
was tired because she was on her feet all day. Yeah. But when in actuality she
later recognized as we were talking to her it was because she was responsible
for these thirty little humans. Yeah yeah and and had an obligation to make them
right. Whatever that means so so there's a stress level that's put
on that that overwhelm. And in her case kids never let up right you know so it's
24-hours go home get some sleep come back do it again the next day. But I
think one of the fundamental pieces is tools. Goes back to tools. If you have a
sense of your grounding you have a sense present time you have a clear
understanding of your Rose and kind of this point of delineation I'm this is me
and that's my experience. And go into the situation that you know you're
vulnerable around prepared already grounded already have you Rose up. So
when you're in that noisy environment you're better able to manage it. Yeah so
set your energy before you go in and get clear about this is what I'm paying
attention to going in. That will all mitigate that overwhelming thing. And I also think that even
even people who have tools or on some spiritual path when they get overwhelmed
there's a there may be a level of not quite guilt but like oh I have tools I
shouldn't be getting overwhelmed. Yeah I should have done this -right you know I'm
not being masterful because I'm now exhausted and in this situation. But you
know and for people with tools and even people kind of now playing in that light
body space with lots of tools lots of awareness and consciousness. You still
have pictures you still have those experiences where I'm uncertain about or
I'm not capable of or I don't think I can perform and much of that is my mom
dad teacher minister said and I haven't cleaned that pattern out yet.
So sometimes an experience like overwhelm stop and say where does this
come from. Not as beating yourself up but you know what is the source of this? Who
am I pleasing? What am I why am I doing this? How do I what do I want from this?
Am am i able to be accomplished on my terms based on or on based on somebody
else's terms. How am I playing this game out? So I think asking questions not from
-beating yourself up -what's wrong with me is actually a very valuable -yeah -process. And make it be okay that when I'm in a
social situation of 20 people or more that I start to feel a little
uncomfortable so recognized that's what happens don't beat yourself up for it
and then prepare with the tools before you walk into that party. And let's just
take that situation too a lot of times you don't have to be the center of attention.
They may not be but because you don't have to be maybe at that point
stop being engaged just kind of be quiet and start to pay attention to you and
what is going on here that I'm feeling this particular way. So be introspective
you know it's the thing is you think well everybody's noticing actually
nobody's noticing. No people are just in their own thing. Absolutely and you just get quiet and
and kind of really notice you in this in this process. So but overwhelm there's
a whole other side of it let's touch on this the energetic side of the world
today. You know you the collective
consciousness the collective nature of humanity right now is in a disconnect.
The energies of structure and dependability and I came from here and
this is how it works and this is my truth that's not holding water for you
know the many many people. So there's a the ground is shaking under the feet
of humanity right now and some are panicking or fearful or scared or fill
in the blank without having any idea what's going on with me. And so you're
also feeling that banging of that energy on the edge of your energy field -which -causing
some of that. Which causes overwhelm. Which causes overwhelm. You know
without going here if you listen to Fox News on this side or CNN on this side
it's astonishing the same exact sentence spoken by somebody whose name will go
unnoted unspoken it's like it's -night and day -two different night day. And so you get all
this amping up of energies that have nothing to do with you
many times. And part of managing overwhelm I think is knowing when to
step away like you said be quiet in that party just stand and observe. Yeah. Know
when you when is healthy for you to step away and say I'm done right now I
need to take care of me. And there's a phrase in bicycle riding that says
drink when you're not thirsty and eat when you're not hungry
because you're out there you know going 50 60 hundred mile rides like like I do
and you haven't drank enough or eaten enough you hit the wall and at that
point you way you're way past the point of you know finishing that bike ride. Yeah. So
in this case start to notice indicators of let me just kind of take a breath and
ground myself and step aside and kind of enjoy this rather than engaging in it.
Yeah. You know we had a woman the other day where we went to that party the other
night and she stepped into the conversation and began to talk about the
governor's race and the two candidates and this and it was like wow where did this come from? She was so revved
up. Really revved up. And but very intelligent so it was worth listening to
her point of view but this amp on in her space was was kind of fascinating. But it
yet it was like yeah I'm interested but I'm not interested that much. Yeah. And
had to go drink more. No that's not what happened at all I don't think anyway.
So overwhelm is something to pay attention to particularly in these days.
These shifts are happening these experiences that you're used to being in
place many of them aren't going to be there to be in place in future times. So more
and more it's important to be masterful of your own personal space.
Managing who you are. Managing who you are. Yeah so so it's it's how do you
choose as you know always pay attention to you and what is it that you want to
experience in the situation that I'm in. And when you go home did you get it or
did you get overwhelmed? So why did you go to that party what would you like to have
learned what was your reason? Be clear about the reason and then
measure it against the experience you're having. So that's all I know I think on
that topic. Maybe we should go clean the house now.
For the party we're going to have. Oh yeah so all those people. Twenty people coming
over to have a party. Absolutely. No I don't think so. No. Have a nice morning.
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