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Have you ever felt self-doubt,

like you can't trust your own decision-making?

Have you ever doubted yourself,

not knowing

what to do

and not taking action?

I have.

That's why

I'm doing this video for you today.

I've learned sooo much

from this experience of

overcoming my self-doubt.

I really want to share my 3-step process

for conquering your doubts

and gaining

the confidence to make good decisions.

In this video,

I will share with you

how to overcome SELF-DOUBT

and confidently make

good decisions

in 3 very simple steps.

I will also give you

2 of my Christian Affirmations

that will lift you up in Spirit

and remind you

that you have wisdom,

you are able,

and you have great intelligence

to fuel your decision-making.

So, let's dive right into it!

Hi!

My name is Anna Szabo,

and this channel is for all women

who want to grow in their relationship

with Jesus.

Here, we have authentic conversations

about God, Gospel, and the matters of life.

A new video comes out every single day!

So, subscribe now and turn on the notifications bell

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Today is #WisdomRevival Wednesday.

It's is a series of daily devotionals for women.

We are talking about

how to overcome self-doubt

with wisdom.

I remember being paralyzed by self-doubt

in 2016 after Michel and I got married

and he abandoned the marriage right away

saying all he wants

is to be an IronMan and

compete in Kona.

And he filed for a divorce

4 months after our wedding.

Not only only did I experience self-doubt

but also debilitating depression

and scary suicidal thoughts.

I couldn't trust myself.

And here's why...

On 1/31/2016 Michel proposed to me

and I said YES with confidence.

It was a cold Sunday afternoon.

Michel came back from a business trip in Seattle.

We had our premarital counseling group session at church that evening scheduled

so we were right there

at Perimeter Church

eating the picnic

I prepared for us

knowing that Michel was exhausted

after his travel

and work.

When Michel knelt before me, that afternoon,

not only did I say YES to his marriage proposal

but I also said this:

Michel,

you are the most Christ-like man

I've ever met.

With your behaviors,

actions and interactions with me and others,

you've exhibited the fruit of the spirit

- and I named the 9 -

and I'll be honored

to spend the rest of my life

with you.

Michel worked at a mega-church in Alpharetta and he portrayed himself a seminary graduate

who loved Jesus.

So, you can imagine the size of the deception

I realized I was lured into

when after our wedding night

Michel switched his priorities

and abandoned the marriage.

I remember as if it were yesterday:

our master bedroom,

I'm sitting on the side of the bed,

he's sitting on the floor

and saying to me:

I'm not interested in this marriage,

all I want is to be an IronMan...

I felt confused,

devastated,

stupid,

and worthless in that miserable marriage with Michel

where I was exposed to mental cruelty Daily

and suffered

so much self-doubt.

James 1:5 says this:

If any of you lacks wisdom,

you should ask God.

And so, I did.

I found free Biblical counseling and started having weekly sessions on WEDNESDAYS.

Yes!

It's not by accident I call our daily devotional

on Wednesday

#WisdomRevival

My Biblical counselor

gave me homework every week

to focus my mind on what God says about how I should act in my situation.

1 Corinthians 1:30 says this:

It is because of him

that you are in Christ Jesus,

who has become for us wisdom from God—

that is,

our righteousness,

holiness

and redemption.

We have access to God's infinite intelligence

and can make wise decisions

if we tap into that wisdom

through Jesus.

We just need to pray and ask.

And that is it.

This is my secret for you today.

When in self-doubt,

do these 3 things:

- Seek to understand what the Bible says on the topic of your self-doubt

- Ask God to help you make a wise decision

- Listen to the Holy Spirit in you and obey

James 3:17 says this:

But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure;

then peace-loving, considerate,

submissive, full of mercy and good fruit,

impartial

and sincere.

So, once you get your answer

about the decision you need to make,

you'll have peace.

Having peace INSTEAD of self-doubt

is how you'll know that it's the Holy Spirit speaking,

that the decision you're making

is guided by God.

I promised to share 2 christian affirmations with you today.

The first one is about wisdom itself.

It's devotional #30 out of the #52Devotionals ebook I created for you.

You can download it absolutely free

- the link in in video description below.

It's called I am wise and it's based on

1 Corinthians 1:30,

Isaiah 11:2

and James 1.

I am wise and I show a good judgement.

Jesus has become for me wisdom from God.

My experiences for the hope of others are meant.

My wisdom is with the Holy Spirit intact.

Like we said, when you do tap into God's wisdom,

you'll feel peace

and not self-doubt.

To help remind you about that pure Heavenly peace mentioned in James 3:17,

I created this Biblical affirmation:

I have peace in every way.

It is perfect.

It is sacred.

All the time my Lord is near,

And by Him my life's directed.

You can get this canvas on Amazon.

The link is in the video description below.

To bring it all together,

remember the 3 Steps of conquering your self-doubt:

- Study the Bible on the topic of your concern

- Ask God for wisdom

- And listen to God speak to you through the Holy Spirit

If my 3-step strategy

for how to overcome self-doubt

was helpful,

please subscribe to my channel

for more videos like this.

Let me know

how it works for you in your situation,

share in the comments below.

Thanks for watching and I'll see you in my next video tomorrow for #VulnerabilityAccountability

Thursday video.

God bless!

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Morning Conversations with Jim Self and Roxane Burnett - Food for the Cells - Duration: 16:07.

Hello, good morning again.Well we're back again this week with Dr. Everett Byers

who's a functional medicine practitioner with lots of experience in anti-aging,

reversing aging and really beginning to look at how do you change some of the

degenerative diseases that we're all faced with. Last week we talked about

metabolic detoxes and how you basically really begin to clean out the body and

set the body up for an opportunity to just really reheal itself. There's so

much great information out there today Everett, there's so many really incredibly

brilliant scientists that are doing things, understanding how the body works.

But one of these areas that I'm really fascinated with is the energy of the

body. How does the body make energy, where does the energy come from, what's the

kind of fuel you put into the body to really begin to create optimum health?

And I'm assuming it's not coca-cola and Twinkie Donuts. Exactly right.

So true. Energy production within the body is everything because that's

anti-aging that prevents us from having disease. That heals the tissues, keeps

us functioning at an optimal level and it's it's most important for that energy

production to happen. And it's more than just that the food that we eat but it's

also the somewhat the energy that's within the food. And not all food is created

equal and not all protein, carbohydrates are the same. So it's very important

because as I mentioned that I believe that at the end of the last episode that

food is information. Yeah. And and that information is going to what signals the

genes to do what they need to do to produce the energy that we need to have

for our system in our body. So having the right foods to get the right results is

quite important in functioning at the optimum level within our cells and

tissues. Energy comes in certainly the form of food and sunshine etc and

ground and things like that. For the nutritional

standpoint this energy is taken into our system that the food digested,

absorbed and then is taken out to the cells through the liver etc. to be

processed and utilized. And how much, and this, this is so interesting. We thought

it was actually the genes that control the cell in the functioning but

what they're finding out now, this is so incredible, is that's actually the cell

membrane that regulates what goes into the cell and comes out. And we want this

the cell membrane to be very healthy and happy and one thing that they need is

the the right oils for that. Very important for the brain cells. Oil. Yes

having the right oils. And everybody basically Jim needs an oil change just

like their car does. And with that we need to get off of the bad oils and

that's going to be your trans fats that's going to be the Omega 6s and it's

gonna be the fried foods. Unsaturated, polyunsaturated oils. Exactly yeah,

and we need to get the good oils in there and something everybody knows

that's gonna be the Omega 3s. And the other oils that we thought were

taboo, causing problems, but that we actually need to have. Yep. Such as

the coconut oil, such as some of the saturated fats, the mono saturated. We

because we need to have the healthy cell membranes to help with energy production,

regulation of the cells and also the mitochondria within the cells. As our

mitochondria goes so goes our health and our energy. Now mitochondria produce,

or actually produce ATP but they are little organelles within the cell, Jim.

Most people might have not heard of them but vitally important as we as we get

older our body decreases the production of them, we lose more of them. These are

called what? Mitochondria. Mitochondria, I see, okay.

Yeah mitochondria and we don't make enough of them like we did when we were

younger except you can change that. Nice. That's the neat part about the program

Jim it we can we can instruct the cells to make new mitochondria. There's things

we can do such as, simple as exercise, that increases the production of them.

Because mitochondria are the-- lets explain what they are. Yeah please. Yeah,

they're the energy factories of our cells. Right. And we've got to have

those guys function optimal level to heal our tissues, prevent disease, and keep

us younger longer and active. So it's very important to keep those at a optimal

functioning level. Now generally what happens with the dying off of

mitochondria or dying off of cells in general, is there's just not enough

energy to keep them going so the mitochondria begin to stop producing

quality energy. Correct. And the quality energy is really a direct function of

the quality fuel you put into the cells. So I know you've done a lot of research

and a lot of work on that and there's a Dr. Joseph Mercola down at UCLA, somebody

that you know, and has done an enormous piece of research on how the body in

fact processes food. And what we've been told and how the food industries have

grown up and just dominated our health blindly to to a great extent, really

isn't the way that health works. It just, you're being fed foods that are really

not even the right foods. But Dr. Mercola came out with a lot of research on using

an oil diet. Exactly what you're talking about, ketone oil diet basically. And

coconut oil, olive oils, avocados a huge food source for the mitochondria

to begin to regenerate the cells of the body. So you want to talk about that and

maybe here maybe-- Oh absolutely. Talk about that book. This

is the book: Fat for Fuel. A very, very cutting edge, very transformative. We're

coming out of the 3D realm of survival and our mass consciousness with diet and

eating habits now Jim, and we're moving into that fourth dimension, the

fifth dimension where things are changing.

And we're going to change the things for our body so it can keep up with our

transformation of our change in consciousness. And we want to catch the

body up. This is certainly one way to start, to start in that process as

doing the metabolic detox. And then sending the right signals. That's what

this diet does. It helps and it's actually an eating program. You're going

to be eating a lot of good oils, adequate protein, excuse me but less less

carbohydrates than what you're certainly used to. And the reason is what we want

to look at the things that destroy our cells and tissues and eliminate

those that's certainly going to be sugar and it's certainly going to be the

simple carbohydrates. This is so revolutionary in the way he presents

this here to implement it in your daily activities of living. But you want the

good oils as Jim said and this is important and this goes with a modified

ketogenic diet. Ketogenic diets is where you have your main source of

calories is from the good oils as Jim had mentioned, adequate protein with just

a low amount of carbohydrates but certainly adequate. The reason is the, and

this has to do with the way the whole body functions as far as the pH of our

system. Even sugars and a lot of breads and these types of starches and things

increases the acidity of our, of our our body. Well this is what just

junks up the whole internal system and the the intestinal system and

consequently you need a metabolic detox to get back into a good place. Exactly

right. So this book is really very fascinating. We really strongly

recommend taking a look at it. It talks about the history of food in terms of

since the 18th century. How collage food and and some of these

different things. Some of these oils that you're started eating. Cotton oil which

was-- killed the animals, really the cottonseed oil until they reprocessed this a

little bit and decided we'll just give it all the humans. So lots of these things

that we just-- That's Wesson oil. That's what was called Wesson oil and basically

it's poisonous to the body. So beginning to recognize why, what you're eating, and

how eating differently, not dramatically differently, not really--

Different choices. Different choices, not really interrupting your whole system

significantly is going to make a change. One of the things that I keep being real

conscious of is the Shift in consciousness is really allowing the

body in the cellular structure to change. Much more easily than it has been in the

past. Yes. And so recognizing some of these changes that are possible in terms

of making a substitute. I know we eat a lot of avocados and coconut oil, primary

part of our diet. And where there was interest in breads and where there was

interested in sugars in the past, just no interest. The interest is gone. The body

is not interested in eating its habit any longer because it has a substitute

that burns a whole lot cleaner and more functional in the body. And I can

say in my own diet and I'm relatively I'm very healthy.

Absolutely. The change in my health level was really quite amazing in terms of the

clarity the focus the energy that I had to do things even though when I had

quite a bit of energy before. Yes it changes the the energy in your system

and this is quite noticeable as people do the metabolic detox because food has

an energy within itself, within the the molecules. And these molecules then

create a feeling and that feeling then creates an emotion. And so you actually

have a feeling and emotion of your system which is actually somewhat a

another connection with another, forms another mind of its own or brain. And

what we can start doing is to getting that synchronized with the consciousness

levels that we're progressing into so that they're more in line with each

other and we bring the body with it. Doing that with the right foods to send

the right signals and the right information the right energy is quite

powerful for an individual. You'll become more sensitive to the,

to the energies and also what I've noticed Jim, is I become more sensitive

to myself. I become more sensitive to my own thought patterns that I thought I

cleared and they're still, these little energies are popping up. I go, are you

kidding me? Look at that I never even saw that before. And this doing the metabolic

detox and particularly a lot of times I'll do three days of water fasting with

the detox products. And you become so much more sensitive to yourself so that

you can really make the changes and this is just it's-- Yeah there's something

I've learned too that's really interesting and I've watched this for

years. You know you you if you look at a town, a city, and a portion of city starts

to deteriorate and then it deteriorates further. You begin to get a clientele, a

type of person that comes and lives there. And you have lower and lower happiness,

crime increases etc etc. And that begins to be a general problem. Parasites in the

body function exactly the same way. Yes. Parasites, and your body is full of

parasites, it just comes with the territory.

You're like the earth everything lives on, the earth, the parasites lived there.

But when the body isn't healthy it's like that deteriorating part of the

city and you start to get anaerobic environments where you get a whole

different set of parasites. Parasites bring with them thoughts. Now that's a

whole nother topic for another time but you begin to have a degenerated

environment in which the body is now hosting this kind of dis-ease that

ultimately happens. And these metabolic detoxes and the change in oils getting

off of the sugars, some of the carbohydrate levels that we all take, and

basically it's like a renovation project in the city.

The parasites just can't sustain themselves in aerobic high energetic

vibrational circumstances. So this oil diet begins to be something

that starts to have multiple effects across the board.

Those degenerated places I'm watching in a person's body is what you mentioned

last week: arthritis, rheumatism, different kinds of dysfunctional aspects of the

body, lots of inflammation comes out of the

poor dietary structuring. So what you're talking about in your success with

reversing aging and reversing the chronic diseases is really exciting.

Real cutting edge out where you get to play. It's all possible. People

have control over about 90% of their own health and they don't know it but that's

what we want to bring is that information they can make those changes.

Yeah let me so let me bring this to your attention once more time this book. Easy

reading, very, very informative, it has recipes, it has diet instructions in it,

it talks about oils that are good, it talks about the history of the food

industry in terms of the relationship with the governments and how we actually

got here. Very informative book. But Joe Mercola is just one of these brilliant

brilliant people who have been just dropped on the planet to begin to change

the direction. So something we would recommend. I'd also point you to

Everett's website there's lots of good information there. We're not necessarily

here selling anything we're just basically telling you where you can start to look

at places to shift yourself in this shifting process of this consciousness

change that we're all playing in. So Everett, again thank you very much. My pleasure. For kind

of playing here. We're going to come back next week with Everett one more time and

I'm not going to be here. Roxanne's going to be here and we want to talk about

hormones both for males and females. But things like menopause and how to

basically move through that in a way that's a lot more comfortable than many

women go through. But men go through an aspect of

menopause also, it's called-- Andropause. Andropause and it's really

upsetting and most men don't even understand what's going on and they

don't have any sense that they could possibly be having something like that

happen. So hormones and a little bit more about how to balance out your reality so

I hope this is really useful and Everett again thank you so much for being here.

This is kind of fun and I hope this is helpful information for all of you. So

look forward to seeing you next week.

you

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How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem - Australia 365 - Duration: 7:34.

How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem

Ive wasted a lot of time thinking about appearances and what others think.

 How will I look with this outfit I have on?  Will the neighbors notice that Ive been fighting with my partner?  Its time to think independently and worry less about what other think.

On more occasions than we realize, we are depending on others to tell us how to live our lives.  This can be  something that is too egocentric.

Shouldnt people have to worry about their own lives and think independently?.

Yes, people do need to worry about their own lives.

  However,  the principal objectives of some people seems to be to maintain an impeccable appearance so that everyone likes them.

A person needs to feel good inside.

It doesnt do us any good to worry about appearances if passing through the threshold of our own home brings us down.

Suddenly, were not a perfect couple, but a marriage on the verge of falling apart.

  Now we dont have a job to boast about, but a boss who we always complain about, doesnt respect us, and doesnt pay us what we are worth.

Nevertheless, in spite of all of this, we  go around with a smile.

  We lie professing things no more than how we would like them to be in reality.

What are we afraid of? What will they say?  This is an enormous waste of energy.  Everyone has problems.

We are imperfect!  We make mistakes, and to learn from them, we have to accept them.

However, instead of this, we try to hide them, living a life full of frustration and unhappiness.

  Do we really want to sacrifice our well being to keep up appearances?.

It doesnt matter if a neighbor judges us or if a member of our family judges us.

  Everyone tends to criticize what they dont know.

  Maybe its because they are seeing reflections of themselves that they dont actually recognize.

Looking for our happiness is what is really important and doing what makes us feel good.  Even though that implies confronting our different fears, value judgements and criticism that have no value.

And, the first step is to think independently.

Let old thoughts go.

Like many things in this life, we are surrounded by beliefs that we cling to and we resist letting them go.

It seems that we are, in fact, what we believe.

Basically, our beliefs define us.  Also, we think that if we dont live up to our beliefs, we are committing a terrible mistake.

We have to begin to prioritize what we want, look out for our well being, and not do what pleases others.

  How can we do all of this? Well, we have to think independently.

Let go of your own demands.

There are certain things that we have learned since we were little children and they have left an important impression on us.

  For example, if we have been reprimanded for talking too much, we probably dont talk much and listen instead.

What did they tell us that we should do in our childhood?  How did we have to present ourselves?  How did we have to be?  Dont laugh too much.

Dont jump around.  Keep your clothes clean.  We had to go places that we didnt want to go.

Why do you have to continue doing all of that?  Before you were under the responsibility of your parents and they told you what to do, but not now.

You can change all of that!.

  Accept what you would like to do in life and they will accept you.

Before getting depressed because everyone judges us or because everyone tries to keep up an impeccable appearance, we have to ask ourselves if we accept what we would like to do or are we limiting ourselves.

For example, I want to get divorced but I dont do it because of what they would say.

  However, its what I want!  I am limiting myself.

  I dont accept my own decision.

  In addition, I dont put what I want in first place.

We have to begin to prioritize our decisions.

  This way we will notice that people dont judge us as much as what we think.

  Who cares if they do!.

Lets start to think independently.

  Give priority to what we want, not to what we should do.

  After all, we are in the drivers seat of our lives.

We cant lead our lives by our beliefs and fears, and much less by those of others.

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Self-Directed IRA's - Establishing A Self-Directed or Checkbook IRA LLC - Duration: 5:15.

David: How do you do a basic self-directed IRA?

Well, I'll tell you.

We're not a custodian.

The reason I'm not a custodian, is the custodian we use has been doing it for 30 years, and

they charge most of my clients about $180 a year to be the custodian.

When we're doing a basic account, I'll tell people, I'll say, "Look, you know, you can

pay me a couple hundred dollars to do this thing, or just go online, IRA Services Trust

Company is the custodian we use."

They charge a base quarterly custodial fee of $25 and upcharge per investment.

I think it's $20 for a membership in a checkbook IRA LLC.

Obviously, they can't survive on that.

So, if you just have a base account and you had 10 different investments at $20 per investment,

it starts adding up.

And with the checkbook IRA, there's one investment they make, the membership interest in that

checkbook IRA LLC, and that takes care of them.

To set up a basic account, all we're doing is establishing a custodial account with an

IRA that will allow you to make those investments.

What are some names of those custodians?

IRA Services Trust Company, Pensco Trust, Equity Trust, Entrust, Sterling Trust, Sunwest

Trust.

These are all trust companies that do these things.

There's probably a dozen that are the major ones that do these transactions.

They will allow you to do this stuff.

I'll warn you, if you call them up and you ask questions, you're going to call, you're

probably going to get an automated answer.

You're probably going to wait there.

We've got so many accounts with these guys, and I have to wait.

Sort of irritating, but anyway, they're fine.

If you want to buy a passive investment that's not time sensitive, a basic account's going

to take care of you.

If you want to buy into one of Lindsay's projects, that's going to be just

fine.

You're just going to sell a membership interest in an LLC, the custodian's going to want to

see the operating agreement, all the agreements for you, and they'll make the investment.

And that works just fine for a passive investment or something that's not time sensitive.

'Cause they might have a 24-hour funding policy, but it's typically going to take more than

that to get it done.

Figure 48 to 72 hours from the time they get everything for them to make the investment.

With that said, those basic accounts don't work very well if you want to go out and buy

a rental house, or if you're going to be ... I have people that do a lot of hard money stuff,

and they need to have that loan set right now to get a deal funded.

Well, checkbook IRA is what takes care of that.

A checkbook IRA will allow you to manage a property.

So, when we do a checkbook IRA, we still create that custodial account, and then instead of

the custodian making the investment into the ultimate investment, the custodian makes one

investment.

So, if you look at this bubble chart, we're going to take whatever source of funds, and

we can take multiple disqualified parties.

This LLC could include you, an IRA, a 401K plan, your Roth and traditional IRA's.

It could include any combination of things.

Spouses can be in there, a group of people can be in ... Actually one last comment, I

got back, double-backed disqualified parties.

What's really interesting, one, as I said at the beginning, you can transact along with

the disqualified party, you just can't transact between them for the benefit of disqualified

parties.

So, I want to take plan money and personal money to go buy something.

I can do that, like I said at the end of the 1031 class.

If I want to loan my brother money, I can do that.

Siblings are not disqualified parties to one another.

Aunts and uncles are fine.

So, it's just when you look at ascendants, descendants, their spouses

or any that are controlled by that.

It's not ... you can go horizontally.

Siblings are fine, aunts and uncles are fine.

Sort of funny that way.

So, we can take any combination of disqualified parties, we can aggregate different accounts

if we want, move it into the custodial account.

Then instead of the custodian making investment X, the private loan to real estate directly,

we're going to have the custodian make one investment.

That's in the membership interest of the checkbook IRA LLC.

So, we put the LLC together, the operating agreement is all IRA specific.

We do the articles to get the federal tax ID number.

As soon as we've got all that together, we're going to get the information to you, you're

going to go to the bank, open a checking account in the LLC's name and EIN.

You as manager of the LLC are signer on that bank account.

So then, for you to make one of these investments, you just negotiate the purchase in the LLC's

name and EIN, and or name and just write the check for the earnest money and write

the check to close the thing.

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Emotion control for kids | Managing emotions with self regulation strategies - Duration: 7:05.

Hi. My name is Siope and I'm the Director of Smarter Parenting. Today I

wanted to talk to you about helping children learn to control their emotions.

Largely using a very specific technique. Now, I was working with a family with an

11-year-old boy and he had a hard time controlling his temper. He was fairly

explosive. His parents would ask him to do something and he would react. He would

punch holes into walls. He would throw things, yell, run out of the house. And

after working with this family for a while, we focused a lot of attention

on the parents and how they can interact with their son in a more positive way.

But with the young man he also needed help and so I introduced this idea, this

concept to him to help him monitor his own responses. His own physiological

responses when things happen. Now it's a fairly simple technique and it's

something that anyone can do. I purchased something called a pulse oximeter. Now

you can buy one of these at your local drugstore for around twenty to thirty

dollars. You don't have to get something that's super expensive, but a pulse

oximeter is something that you would find at a hospital. So you stick it on

your finger and it will tell you what your heartbeat is and also oxygen levels.

And by doing this we were able to monitor how he was responding to

different stimuli within the home. So, initially in talking to the

boy we made it a game and I put it on him. And we tried to determine first off

his baseline. What is his resting heart rate. And we did this by having him sit

down in a calm state, putting it on his finger and we were able to watch the

number fluctuate, either one up or one down and he was able to get a baseline

so we took note of that. Then I gave him a challenge. To actually try and reduce

that number. So reduce his heart rate and offered suggestions on how to do that. So

he could start to deep breathe. You know take

deep breaths and calm down. Relax his muscles. And he was able to bring it down

actually five more points than where it was when he was resting and we logged

that down. Okay, and so we were able to recognize from there two points where

he's calm and he's able to deal with things. What we did then, after that, is I

met with the parents and with him, and he kept the pulse oximeter on him and as we

started to discuss some of the issues in the home. And what we were watching for

is to see if it started to elevate his heart rate. And as it started to escalate

while we started to talk about issues in the home, we took a break and had him

bring it back down. Now this is a powerful technique especially for

children because they're able to recognize they

have control. They have some element of control and they're able to work through

things. So while we were working through this whole process with his family it

was pretty-pretty powerful for them to see and to recognize that yeah, we don't

need to lay out our whole agenda to the child at this time. We can actually work

with him so we'll talk about difficult topic and then we'll evaluate how well

he's doing and then bring his heart rate back down. And then talk again about

difficult topic, see it elevate, and then bring it back down. And it's almost this

dance between the parent and the child and that's completely appropriate. Now

for parents who think that they just should be able to lay down the law and

the kids need to suck it up, you know that's a great thing if you don't want a

relationship with your child. But, if you want a relationship with your child that's

long-term. That's resilient. That will last for for a long time, You want to be

able to recognize that as your child grows you're going to negotiate that

relationship. It changes. It's not going to be, "I say," or "the highway." It's going to

be, "Okay, I'm in control while you're young. As you get a little bit older

you're gonna have a little more independence. I recognize that. I'm still

the parent. I'm gonna lay the rules. You need to abide by those within your

independence and then continue to grow." So with this child it's been interesting

to watch him over the progress because I worked with him when he was 11 years old

and at 15 he was still using this technique. Okay. We first implemented

this technique inside the home, just with the parents. And then we actually

implemented it over to the school. Where I met with the school. Talked with the

teacher and said he's going to be carrying a pulse oximeter. Which he

just wore it around his neck it was on a lanyard. And every hour in school he

would just check and he could do this on his own silently and he would write down

what the number was and that way we could monitor there as well and see

where he would escalate. He was able to monitor and bring down his heart rate

but he continued to use it largely because, for him, it was a good way for

him to feel like in control of what was happening around him. And also to

recognize what things were setting him off and making him anxious, or angry, or

upset. When once you're able to do that, and he's able to recognize he can bring

things to different level, that opens up the floodgates to a whole bunch of other

options that he can implement in order to control his temper and his reaction

to things. So it's super super important for parents to, you know, look for

techniques at work. This is one that I've used, actually often, with families to

help them with children, and it it's a game for some of these kids and for

families. One recommendation I do have though is that the parents also use a

pulse oximeter. They can do that too. So you can use it during a family meeting.

You can monitor where you become upset and then try and deescalate from there.

Everybody takes a timeout to kind of calm them down then you come back and

address the issues. Now pulse oximeter, of course you can buy one in your drugstore,

you can also download apps. They're available. They're not as effective. Also

if you wear a Fitbit, or if you wear an Apple watch, or any of those watches, also

do the same thing they measure your heart rate. You can use any of those.

However, I prefer to use one that is from the drugstore, you know around $20,

largely because I don't want to give a child

an expensive electronic thing. Because who knows when their explosive, who knows

what they'll do with it. So it's better to start off with something that you

know you can replace. It's a little bit easier to use. So those are, that's a suggestion

that you can use as a parent with your child to help your child who may be

having a problem de-escalating or learning to control their temper or

their anxiety.

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AYS Daily Growth Hacks 228 Name Your Former Self - Duration: 8:25.

Today's topic: Name Your Former Self

Hi I'm Doug Holt with Author of Your Own Story and this is your Daily Growth Hack

where each day we give you a tip trick or insight to help you up level what we

call the Five to Thrive that is your mind, your body, your soul, your

relationships and your business I just got off a client call with a client of

mine in the UK and we were talking about 2017 versus where we started from which

was actually at the beginning February of 2017 to where he is today

and where he is to date all areas of his life not just his business although

that's originally why he hired me so when we were talking one of the things

he said is Doug I am just a totally different man I show up as a totally

different husband a totally different father a totally different friend and

person of my community a totally different businessman and a leader with

inside my own company I've taken the reins and controlled them in fact when I

look back at my journals my writings when we first started I'm just a

different person all together now I think that's amazing and hopefully all

of us are different people right we've all grown grown in a positive way life

has thrown things at us and we've taken them in stride what I asked him to do

where I suggested he do is something that I just recommend you try on in this

instance try on actually naming your former self if you feel you've made a

big transition in life name the former you right so in this case the to SAP

2017 version of him and you can do the same thing right

so he picked a funny name right he picked a name that really made sense to

him he called it Wiley and the reason they called it Wiley the former him is

because he felt like he was all over the place

spinning his wheels constantly not getting anywhere yeah he had the tools

the education he had an mba from a very renowned school he was known in his

community to be a very staunch businessperson but underneath it all

widely his 2017 former self was out of control was drinking excessively was

doing drugs just to numb kind of the pain in his life and the holes he was

trying to fill his business was was moving forward but not the capacity that

he could actually serve it at his relationships his relationships were

hallo he lost contacts with most of his friends does this sound familiar to some

of you he also was having what he felt like he said in he with his words were I

was sleeping next to my wife yet we were miles apart from each other how many of

us have had that experience whether it be one night or months or if like Wiley

it actually was six months for him till he was actually able to turn that around

and reignite passion to his life so what I had Wiley of 2017 do is I had a marine

named his current self and he decided to call it his name 2.0 right so the new

version of himself and I won't give his name out but you get the idea now take

this a step further what I'd like you to do is rename yourself your 2017 former

self give it a name give it a funny name whatever you want to do you can call it

Doug 1.0 or or whatever you want and then name yourself today you know Doug

2.0 for example but you can call it anything I've had clients call

themselves King Thor all kinds of names very creative depending on on who they

were and their own personalities as they as they really came out now also what

you want to do is look back and when you're doing excuse me not even look

back but when you're doing actions today when you're faced with a drama or a or

something that's coming up maybe you have anxiety going through ask yourself

is this Wiley or Doug 2.0 and who actually should be taking the reins here

now if you're in a conflict let's say you're in a business situation and the

pressure is high and you've got deadlines to meet you start to get

stressed new maybe you're snapping on your team you're on you know you're on

chat you're on the phone you're sending text messages and it's just stressful

it's a stressful situation I want you to do is take a quick pause and say Who am

I being right now in my power am I being wily or am I being Doug 2.0

and then that clarity right there gives you the option of following the Doug 2.0

method which is actually hey let's clear let's take a couple deep breaths maybe

meditate for five minutes and just really clear yourself and know what is

important what's my 80/20 here where can I

actually move the needle the most with just putting 20% of the efforts in this

gives you the power the power to drive yourself towards the author of your own

story now I use this with my clients we do a much deeper dive of course on this

but this short simple tip can really have an effect and help you move so what

I'm going to ask you to do as your own coach is grab your journal and write out

2017 how would you name yourself what would you give yourself the form are you

yeah you've changed maybe you feel like you're in the same place and I

understand I've been there for - we've had life experiences you've had things

happen to you and for you throughout the 2017 year so let's name that former you

and let's move forward and what do you want what do you want to call you today

is that a hero that you've seen in a movie or read about is that a comic is

it just your name 2.0 what is it for you make it easy but make it something

that's inspiring that way you can ask yourself throughout this year and

throughout today who are you being in this exact moment this gives you control

you know just like an actor or somebody if I I tell you to stand up straight put

up your chest take nice deep diaphragm ik breath you get more power of

confidence and energy just by doing that physiological change conversely if you

get strum shoulders you know shallow breathing you can get depressed quickly

we don't want that we want the shoulders back confident you and that is the same

thing you can do in the psychology of physiology by naming this former you to

the current or future you and living like that person you start to act or be

like that person that's what you put out into the world and that's who you become

it's just repetitive it's just the way it works it's the new you right so I

invite you to do this grab your journal write

the 2017 version of you name the 2018 or present-day version of you and the

person that you're going to become and then ask yourself throughout the day who

are you acting more like and then you have the opportunity to choose the path

that better suits you that's it for me today if you like conversations like

this and you want to go deeper make sure you get over to the author of your own

story university page and make sure you get on that waitlist it is epic growth

and that's where I want for you my mantra for 2018 is epic growth and

adventure and I want you to come on that journey with me and I want to be on the

journey with you also share this with at least three people three people that you

know want to have this conversation and just by you sharing this with them

you're giving them a little gift or saying hey I heard this and you know

this guy was talking this crazy guy and he suggested yeah there might be

something interested for you this will actually spur greater conversations

within you in your world and that's what I want for you a constant continual

growth whether you're in the Author of Your Own Story University or you're just

in our private Facebook group or simply just listening to these and doing the

work and I really hope you're doing the work cuz that's how the magic happens

that's the ingredient right that's the secret sauce you know you don't bake a

cake by putting flour in the oven first and then taking it out and mixing the

eggs know there's a recipe and I want to give you the recipe that I've learned

over decades with mentors and coaches through the author of yours for a

university also go out and just inspire someone by being yourself be your 2.0

today and I guarantee people around you will notice and it'll inspire them and

give them the freedom to step into their own power have a great day I'll see you

tomorrow.

For more infomation >> AYS Daily Growth Hacks 228 Name Your Former Self - Duration: 8:25.

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How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem - Canada 365 - Duration: 7:32.

How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem

Ive wasted a lot of time thinking about appearances and what others think.

 How will I look with this outfit I have on?  Will the neighbors notice that Ive been fighting with my partner?  Its time to think independently and worry less about what other think.

On more occasions than we realize, we are depending on others to tell us how to live our lives.  This can be  something that is too egocentric.

Shouldnt people have to worry about their own lives and think independently?.

Yes, people do need to worry about their own lives.

  However,  the principal objectives of some people seems to be to maintain an impeccable appearance so that everyone likes them.

A person needs to feel good inside.

It doesnt do us any good to worry about appearances if passing through the threshold of our own home brings us down.

Suddenly, were not a perfect couple, but a marriage on the verge of falling apart.

  Now we dont have a job to boast about, but a boss who we always complain about, doesnt respect us, and doesnt pay us what we are worth.

Nevertheless, in spite of all of this, we  go around with a smile.

  We lie professing things no more than how we would like them to be in reality.

What are we afraid of? What will they say?  This is an enormous waste of energy.  Everyone has problems.

We are imperfect!  We make mistakes, and to learn from them, we have to accept them.

However, instead of this, we try to hide them, living a life full of frustration and unhappiness.

  Do we really want to sacrifice our well being to keep up appearances?.

It doesnt matter if a neighbor judges us or if a member of our family judges us.

  Everyone tends to criticize what they dont know.

  Maybe its because they are seeing reflections of themselves that they dont actually recognize.

Looking for our happiness is what is really important and doing what makes us feel good.  Even though that implies confronting our different fears, value judgements and criticism that have no value.

And, the first step is to think independently.

Let old thoughts go.

Like many things in this life, we are surrounded by beliefs that we cling to and we resist letting them go.

It seems that we are, in fact, what we believe.

Basically, our beliefs define us.  Also, we think that if we dont live up to our beliefs, we are committing a terrible mistake.

We have to begin to prioritize what we want, look out for our well being, and not do what pleases others.

  How can we do all of this? Well, we have to think independently.

Let go of your own demands.

There are certain things that we have learned since we were little children and they have left an important impression on us.

  For example, if we have been reprimanded for talking too much, we probably dont talk much and listen instead.

What did they tell us that we should do in our childhood?  How did we have to present ourselves?  How did we have to be?  Dont laugh too much.

Dont jump around.  Keep your clothes clean.  We had to go places that we didnt want to go.

Why do you have to continue doing all of that?  Before you were under the responsibility of your parents and they told you what to do, but not now.

You can change all of that!.

  Accept what you would like to do in life and they will accept you.

Before getting depressed because everyone judges us or because everyone tries to keep up an impeccable appearance, we have to ask ourselves if we accept what we would like to do or are we limiting ourselves.

For example, I want to get divorced but I dont do it because of what they would say.

  However, its what I want!  I am limiting myself.

  I dont accept my own decision.

  In addition, I dont put what I want in first place.

We have to begin to prioritize our decisions.

  This way we will notice that people dont judge us as much as what we think.

  Who cares if they do!.

Lets start to think independently.

  Give priority to what we want, not to what we should do.

  After all, we are in the drivers seat of our lives.

We cant lead our lives by our beliefs and fears, and much less by those of others.

For more infomation >> How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem - Canada 365 - Duration: 7:32.

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How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem - Australia 360 - Duration: 7:20.

How to Think Independently and Boost Self Esteem

Ive wasted a lot of time thinking about appearances and what others think.

 How will I look with this outfit I have on?  Will the neighbors notice that Ive been fighting with my partner?  Its time to think independently and worry less about what other think.

On more occasions than we realize, we are depending on others to tell us how to live our lives.  This can be  something that is too egocentric.

Shouldnt people have to worry about their own lives and think independently?.

Yes, people do need to worry about their own lives.

  However,  the principal objectives of some people seems to be to maintain an impeccable appearance so that everyone likes them.

A person needs to feel good inside.

It doesnt do us any good to worry about appearances if passing through the threshold of our own home brings us down.

Suddenly, were not a perfect couple, but a marriage on the verge of falling apart.

  Now we dont have a job to boast about, but a boss who we always complain about, doesnt respect us, and doesnt pay us what we are worth.

Nevertheless, in spite of all of this, we  go around with a smile.

  We lie professing things no more than how we would like them to be in reality.

What are we afraid of? What will they say?  This is an enormous waste of energy.  Everyone has problems.

We are imperfect!  We make mistakes, and to learn from them, we have to accept them.

However, instead of this, we try to hide them, living a life full of frustration and unhappiness.

  Do we really want to sacrifice our well being to keep up appearances?.

It doesnt matter if a neighbor judges us or if a member of our family judges us.

  Everyone tends to criticize what they dont know.

  Maybe its because they are seeing reflections of themselves that they dont actually recognize.

Looking for our happiness is what is really important and doing what makes us feel good.  Even though that implies confronting our different fears, value judgements and criticism that have no value.

And, the first step is to think independently.

Let old thoughts go.

Like many things in this life, we are surrounded by beliefs that we cling to and we resist letting them go.

It seems that we are, in fact, what we believe.

Basically, our beliefs define us.  Also, we think that if we dont live up to our beliefs, we are committing a terrible mistake.

We have to begin to prioritize what we want, look out for our well being, and not do what pleases others.

  How can we do all of this? Well, we have to think independently.

Let go of your own demands.

There are certain things that we have learned since we were little children and they have left an important impression on us.

  For example, if we have been reprimanded for talking too much, we probably dont talk much and listen instead.

What did they tell us that we should do in our childhood?  How did we have to present ourselves?  How did we have to be?  Dont laugh too much.

Dont jump around.  Keep your clothes clean.  We had to go places that we didnt want to go.

Why do you have to continue doing all of that?  Before you were under the responsibility of your parents and they told you what to do, but not now.

You can change all of that!.

  Accept what you would like to do in life and they will accept you.

Before getting depressed because everyone judges us or because everyone tries to keep up an impeccable appearance, we have to ask ourselves if we accept what we would like to do or are we limiting ourselves.

For example, I want to get divorced but I dont do it because of what they would say.

  However, its what I want!  I am limiting myself.

  I dont accept my own decision.

  In addition, I dont put what I want in first place.

We have to begin to prioritize our decisions.

  This way we will notice that people dont judge us as much as what we think.

  Who cares if they do!.

Lets start to think independently.

  Give priority to what we want, not to what we should do.

  After all, we are in the drivers seat of our lives.

We cant lead our lives by our beliefs and fears, and much less by those of others.

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