(Kathryn Lovewell) Good evening, everybody.
Welcome to Kind Mind Academy MSC
Bite-Size, Mindful Self-Compassion
Bite-Size; and guess where we are we're
at the Museum of Happiness reading
happiness!
Loving it here, we are halfway through
our Mindful Self-Compassion Five-Day
Intensive Training. I know it's so good
and it's been the most wonderful
experience here in this glorious,
glorious place -- The Museum of Happiness.
At present is based in Camden and soon
to be on the move,
so we are blessed to be the completion
of this chapter of Museum of Happiness.
So the wonderful Michelle Edina and
Vicky Johnson invited us here to share
the magic of one her self compassion
with its members; and it's being glorious
really really magical. So I'm full of
gratitude and feeling blessed and joy
such a delight to be here; it's such a
privilege to share MSC in the basement
of love and kindness and joy and
happiness really spreading happiness.
Because we know a Mindful
Self-compassion increases social
connectedness and brings this beautiful
sense of love and kindness and
compassion; decreases all those deficit
feelings that anxiety depression as
negativity thoughts and feelings that
can swamp our lives when please get up --
so truly blend. We're surrounded by love
and kindness and mindfulness kindfulness
everything. An MSC teacher could post
you want and I'm joined today by the
amazing Liz Walker, who's at the other
side of the Museum at the moment working
her technical magic before she'll come
and join us in a while. And we will have
a soft landing for them. So I just wanted
to share with you just how fabulous it's
been it's just and Shamash and Victoria
we will continue working their magic in
42 acres when they move; and wherever
they go they're sharing the love at an
event tonight and tomorrow and continue
to deepen their practice. They've been
with us all week and they will be
continuing to spread the word of Michael
Self-compassion because they are living
embodiment of it which is yes such a
privilege to be with them and teach them.
Hello Carol, hello Paula wonderful for
you to join us. Thank you so much for
coming and those of you that are
watching the recording, I know it will be
a different venue but you know find out
about Museum of Happiness. Liz will no doubt
pop some details about losing happiness
online may be a bit tricky today, because
we've got just the one laptop. Well we're
away from the office and the room but I
wanted to let you know it's the most
magical day. If you've not connected with
the museum companies, before please do so
it's such a gear playing on amazing
events -- we wonderful heart-centered
events that just fill you up; and we're
reminded regularly aren't we with MSC?
Cannot hear from an empty cart and
Museum of Happiness really helps you
fill up your own cup and that's what
it's all about. So let's dive in I'm a
bit sideways because I've got another
chair waiting for the lovely Lizzy and
we can just have a soft landing; and
you've never done this before a soft
landing is quite simply. The invitation
to settle -- settle down settle into the
body, settle into this moment, just be
with this moment -- be how you are notice,
how you're feeling it, hot sweaty it's , 86 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:55,800 quite warm in here and close of the
windows and it's such a lovely warm
evening isn't it what a glorious day.
We've had at the end of September in the
UK so real treat in the sunshine at
lunchtime, so wherever you're at and this
means if you've had a tough day; if
you've had a delightful day; if you've
had a dull day' if you're just tired from
a big day this little soft landing will
hopefully nurture and nourish, you just
bringing kindness to this one, yeah.
Just giving a little bit of a tenderness,
paying attention to yourself, cherishing
yourself as you would a loved one
cherishing; yourself as you would a dear
friend cherishing yourself as you would
a newborn. Baby, you're a little puppy,
let's just come into the world with
real-time kindness and we're going to be
talking today about -- oh well if I do that
when I lose my motivation to get up and
go change the world and make a
difference and strike, create and be a
success so that's the little nuggets
that we'll start to look at a little bit
later; and we're also going to have our
prize prove tonight. I know an action
pack so I better get on with it. Yes
there will be a very lucky winner
tonight. Hopefully there'll be some
watching [ph] commit to this tonight; we will
be making a phone call to say
congratulations, you have won a free
place to the entire MSC program.
How does give me the love.
Alrighty, so I know exciting thank you.
So let's turn to our way to a really
nice. Hey Julie, welcome welcome.
Let's settle down, we talked about this
sound Mindful Self-Compassion first down
but in is emitted from the body;
And if there's more gentleness and
kindness it might be Oh real tenderness.
So just allowing whatever's here to be --
here you may like to close your eyes for
a moment
and a soft landing is just that we're
landing wherever we are very gently and
kindly no expectations, no projections,
leaving the past for give and no need to
go searching to the future. Just resting
here as Hakeem Shamash always say put
down those shopping bags that might be
full to the brim with the past in one
hand and full to the brim with concerns
and worries of future put them all down.
You can pick them up again in a while
but right now rest. They like to take it
slow smooth deep breath connecting with
yourself and with your body and that
beautiful breath softening and releasing
any holding intentional body
saying hello to yourself, welcoming
yourself to this space are magical MSC
Bitesize;
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inclining toward yourself as she would a
dear dear friend with kindness and
compassion maybe feeling that in a smile;
spreading across your heart as she
welcome yourself. Not
letting any thoughts that arise just
come and go a train of thought traveling
along the platform, along the train
tracks and you can just down with that --
[Music]
no need to jump with any thoughts don't
need to ride that train tonight; being a
warmth of your own heart lets you rest
in this good intention;
and when you're ready you may like you
gently open your eyes, come back to this
back oh I do love that gorgeous. Oh it --
different from my bells and it right
well. Let us begin -- Lizzie you're ready to
join me? I am so welcome the amazing Liz
Walker. Nobody from the museum and this
has been her teaching with me this
amazing Five-Day Intensive training so
it's the whole eight-week program
squished into five beautiful days. So
it's been amazing. So let's address one
thing that I'd like to address my
onliest have a groovy question that's
come up as well so many things, so many
issues covered and [indiscernible] intensively so
if I'll strapped ourselves there's lots
of things bubbling up in the Museum of
Happiness at the moment and all the
amazing participants really working with
all these tools; and sometimes wrestling
grappling with them and that's magical
because we know that there's really good
intention to bring kindness to their
hearts. So here's one that came up today
that was really really is a big
misconception, a big myth, a big problem
and maybe a big barrier for people to
move toward Mindful Self-Compassion and
that is if we're kind to ourselves MSC.
what will happen to our motivation, yeah
I'm just going to be well give myself a
little one of our participants called it
a Hall Pass.
Sort of like a get out of jail free card
oh you don't do you exercise go on you
go and rest.
Oh you don't have to do your
like oh I need to anyhow I go; oh you
don't need to do that email tonight; oh
you don't mean to well. No you don't need
to clean your teeth don't worry about it.
Alright so this is a genuine fear, and
it's a really big concern of a lot of
people with interpreters and Kristen Neff,
one of the co-founders of Mindful
Self-Compassion. She's got some great
footage, she's discussed these myths of
Mindful Self-compassion and really
wonderfully that you can find them on
YouTube; and again later on maybe you can
find those links and stick them in
superstar texts because there are other
things of our own - it won't be tonight.
Everybody, alright so that will pop them
up at some point but it's a really great
point; and I know what's exciting is that
Kristen being your awesome researcher
that she is has demonstrated and proven
categorically that it's the absolute
antithesis of what we'd expect -- it's the
opposite of what we expect. Oh if I'm
really kind and soft and fluffy to
myself which is what people say no it's
not not bluffing;
you need a courageous heart to do this
work a very courageous heart and the
people in this room are realizing just
how courageous thing we need to be
sometimes with the material that we're
working through; but to reassure those of
you that are concerned well I just have
a get-together [ph] the bed again if I'm kind.
Oh I'm too tired let's just [ph] standard.
Actually, the research demonstrates that
it's the complete opposite; we are more
likely to take care of our well-being. We
are more likely to behave differently in
so much that we would eat better, make
sure we sleep get some rest,
take good care of ourselves, lots of
common curious, isn't it? We are more
likely to address difficult situations;
we are more likely to more compassionate;
we are more likely to address conflict;
and say sorry sorry sorry when there's
been
relational difficulty. And so the list
goes on and on and on so it's really
important to know that actually when we
start to bring kindness into our lives
because we put the stick down they come
on now or Mr. Motivator or whoever
you've got yelling in your ear. It
doesn't mean that we're not able to
motivate but with motivated I would say
inspired by a kind of voice we learn to
cultivate a compassionate voice rather
than a critical voice; but without this
credible voice casting I'm never going
to do anything. I'm never going to
succeed and get stuff done it's not true
and our experience is I think you'd
agree the more we cultivate our ability
to be kind we recognize that actually my
body's way to try to do that now will
likely we are to give ourselves some
rest; maybe get some nourishing sleep; and
with twice as productive the next day.
It's quite curious and sometimes it may
be actually my own time to do that. I'm
going to take care of myself --
Kristen talks about the yin and the yang
and will maybe dive into that a bit more
in another one that would be really good;
but to recognize that there can be a
real yang energy you know to say no I'm
not going to work to 3:00 in the morning
to mark my papers which is definitely
what a lot of teachers do in my
experience or I would be let's get up at
5:00 in the morning to make sure I do it
really right and correct that is not kind
what's my quality of teaching like --
what's my quality of life like when I
push and push and push myself and use
that stick or the angry motivator in my
head. So we learn to cultivate a kind
voice and that kind voice actually will
take care of all of you, so there was it
might be a really good debate. You've got
any thoughts on this what sort of things
you do. Hi Misty.
Yes, you can relate Misty. I hear you so
just start to your my invitation would
be to explore. What can you do to
motivate with a kind voice, a
compassionate approach. We know there's
been studies done about you know those
sports coaches, the ones that yell and
the ones that inspire and say good job,
keep going, don't give up you're doing
great.
Yes, school wasn't as great as it could
be and I know you can do it. So that
kindness first is the fully stocked
rubbish why didn't you do better. You
know that doesn't work and it can lead
to really destructive behaviors within
mind and body destructive behaviors. So
that's probably enough of these in the
photo today. What do you think? (Liz Walker) I think so
in fact you know when you were saying
before it's linked then I think what
would be good because that's come up
again and again and on our Youtube
channel or Crime Line cabinets, a
vertical encounter YouTube channel. We
have got quite a few videos which
actually talk on some of Kristen's
videos when she's sharing about Mindful Self
Compassion versus or Self-Compassion
Business Self esteem. Yes as in it's not
that's a really good one to watch. I'm
quite know watching it personally at
double-time because I let see the
bidding for can I dare and collected put
up one regarding the motivating. (Kathryn Lovewell) Yes, we
haven't got that already. (Liz Walker) I don't know if
they do so I won't have a look at that
on the weekend and maybe. (Kathryn Lovewell) So we have a
YouTube
channel everybody. So if you haven't had a
look where do we go live YouTube - Kind Mind. (Liz Walker) Exactly.
(Kathryn Lovewell) Beautiful to have a little search. So
(Liz Walker) I've made a note to do that. Now I know
Kathryn mentioned earlier that we have
got a fresh straw going on tonight. So
let me tell you a little bit about it.
Over the last couple of weeks,
Kathryn and I have been privileged
enough to go to a couple of well-being
events in the Surrey area and down here
in the Southeast England and we spoke to
lots and lots of people and they all
want to be part of a prize draw for and
the Eight-week MSC program; and so what I
have done rather crudely is actually I
have it already saying down it's just oh..
(Kathryn Lovewell) Thank you for these senders, love hearts
true. (Liz Walker) We do like and everybody's name and
has been put randomly and this on these
post-it notes with a number next to them
so and just to Mary Jane stop I know
very typical to really ask someone (Kathryn Lovewell) If
you know love to you in (Liz Walker) Just a moment
(Kathryn Lovewell) Sorry. (Liz Walker) Just a moment. So most what came
up out of these weekends or the you know
these weekend events was not only did we
able to offer some meditation
experiences which were very very well
received actually and it was really nice
to see just so many people joining in. We
also were asked quite a lot about
getting to know a little bit more about
Mindful Self-Compassion and over the next
couple of weeks we actually have to
intro evenings offered in any casual
two [indiscernible] and the time lining had any
therapy room and you're able to go and
book your place onto that. So if you're
in the Southeast and you would like to
come along actually even if you're
further afield will be very very welcome.
One lady who there's coming tonight we
program all the way from Cheshire so
she's going to come down each women week
because she's already been on our Five-day
intensive with us and she's now going to
come and
Eight-week program with us and really
enjoy in theatre. (Kathryn Lovewell) She loved it that much
she wanted to do it again. Oh sorry. (Liz Walker) So
delicious and will she let she take it
to a much much deeper level and going
just another layer down. Anyway - two intro
evenings 1 on the 2nd of October which
is a Tuesday night and one of Monday the
8th of October. So they run 90 minutes or
so and three up.. (Kathryn Lovewell) Did you
hear that three... so crazy (Liz Walker) Kindmindacademy.com
forward-slash courses and you'll be able
to find and registered [indiscernible]. So
we have a few paces linked... So what I
would like to do is because we've got a
few people on line
I've got line here, so what I would like
to do I would like whoever I don't want
to you know appreciate but whoever is on
line who would like to put a number in
between one and forty six one.. (Kathryn Lovewell) Oh.. forty six,possible winner
so who's it going to be, who's going
to press that button and give us a
number
sort of a drum roll moment shall we?
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We've got Gary and Paula, Misty, Carol
Paula. [indiscernible] (Liz Walker) So let's see if someone will and
it's a lady called Rachel and I actually
don't have her last name I have almost
everybody else's last night on there
that's one to seven on that one and it's
a lady called Rachel. (Kathryn Lovewell) So right we have
your phone number Rachel. (Liz Walker) and Rachel (Kathryn Lovewell) see
if you don't fill the forms in pop. (Liz Walker) We
will get in touch with you and let you
know the next courses we've got a
Tuesday evening course that on 16th of
October running eight weeks.
(Kathryn Lovewell) Oh sorry you missed it Paula. You
were close and if we cannot get hold of
it I'll be Rachel and no I'm sure we will
we will use number 33. So we'll see. Thank
you for doing that. (Liz Walker) So two programs is
the Tuesday evening program which at
some 116 and then we've got the winds
day morning program which that's a 70. So
that's it.
it's only going overnight. (Kathryn Lovewell) I think so
coming up to 8:30.
Let me just check my notes just to say
that we are deeply grateful once again
to the Museum to those beautiful to
point of attention
oh yes oh hang on my brain; and of course
the lovely Vicky and Shamash 443 00:24:24,090 --> 00:24:27,810 just been such an honor and they're
taking such great care of us and the
lovely Sarit and actually some of the
other wonderful people that Grace and
Sarah and Oh who's helped me tonight?
(Liz Walker) Ally. (Kathryn Lovewell) Lovely Ally you know just taking
care of us and setting up and making it
cozy and it's really one it's wonderful
space so a big THANK YOU to everybody.
And of course a wonderful thank you to
you joining us and if you're joining us
on the recording, please do get in touch
if you'd like to know more about our
courses do. We are not giving up this is
our life's mission to go global with MSC
it is already around the world, so if
you're tuning in somewhere else you can
go on to the Center for Mindful Self
Compassion website and they've got lots
of practitioners like Liz and I who are
giving these courses all around the
world and I have some lovely friends in
Israel and Canada and the Netherlands
and all I can [ph] place and Italy and
America and I've been told to stop now.
All right my lovelies
really really wishing you a magical
evening. Please remember to take great
care of yourself and kind especially can
and wishing you a lovely evening
Until next week who knows where we'll be
there. (Liz Walker) Thanks everybody. It's really
really lovely. (Kathryn Lovewell) Long route to the [ph] Kaaba.
All right now please take a care and
thanks Millie and for spreading the MSC
word. (Liz Walker) Thanks, bye bye. (Kathryn Lovewell) Night night.
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