Self love
Like the name says: self love - love ourselves
Like Justin Bieber says:
he doesn't say that in the best way
but it doesn't matter. It suits
A person may have a lack of self love
for various reasons
problems with the past
can't stand up for themselves
they feel ashamed
or have low self esteem
It can be for a lot of reasons
I'm really tired, god
Looks like I was running but no
Now, I'm a confident person
But for a long time, I wasn't
Now, I consider myself a decided woman
but people tell me often - specially men - that I show a lot of confidence
they look at me and they see confidence
and they used to tell me that long before I knew I was this confident
when I was just enjoying, fooling around
and they told me "you're a confident woman"
Am I?
After think about that and think about my life
trying to find myself
and with everything that I've been through
I finally manage to feel good about myself
and now I feel and I know that I'm confident
but I wasn't always like that
I was a really needy person
Despite of being popular in school
I always was kind of a popular girl
I never had problems with having friends
but I always had a problem with love
I was always searching for love
I suffered waaay to much for boys
that are not worth the tip of damage hair
And for all those years I thought that my "relationships" didn't work out because of me
maybe it was because I was needy
but even after I was less needy
after my trip to Amsterdam that cleaned my soul
everything that I tried, I didn't manage to work it out
And I always blame it on me
Now that I'm a confident woman and I know my worth
I know what I deserve
I know that the boys I had something in the last 2 years
I know that if didn't workout, It wasn't because of me
It was the universe
or was the boy's fault
I used to say "No, I'm not the problem
they just can't handle a girl like me"
what really helped me
to increase my confidence and made me feel better about myself
was to create this channel
Now, I'm comfortable with myself
I have more confidence
I have more confidence with my sexuality
and trust me that makes a big difference
feel comfortable with your sexuality
I grew up a lot as an individual
and everytime I record a video, I learn something new
the advise I give to people are also for me
I think people
lose a little of self love when they fall in love
because we let people do wrong things to us
because we like them
because we are still get to knowing the other person
and we'll let it pass
or because we don't want to lose the other person
or because I like her or she likes me
I say "lose" because we know
that we don't deserve to be treated in a certain way
we know that that is wrong, that shouldn't happen
And I feel bad about it and ask myself "why?"
why am I letting this person do this to me?
but that's the thing, you like that person
and you want to be with her
you end up "closing your eyes"
but you shouldn't
If you don't feel good about it
If that person made you feel bad
more than once is enough but ok
more than 2 times
you have to stop it
Have a serious talk with that person
and tell her that that can't happen again
you don't deserve me
and if you keep acting like that
if you keep making me feel like this or like that
that I shouldn't feel like that because I don't deserve it
my friend, we're done.
self love is something that you have to work on
you have to accept a few thing in you
and you have to improve other things, for yourself
not for other people
everything you do is for you to become a better person
and feel better about yourself
You have to start having a positive attitude with everything that happens
and start seeing bad experiences - everything that happened to you
and that you thought "why me?"
start think that it was a lesson
that helped you grow and helped you become the person that you are today
when you love yourself, you have more control of your emotions
especially the bad ones
Instead of judging people, you try to understand them
try to understand why they're behaving in a certain way
and you also learn to say No
you're not going to treat me like that;
if you're not a good person for me, you are out of my life
step by step you're going to cut out all of the toxic people out of your life
You try to be "fine with life"
of course everyone has bad days
but it's try not to let a small thing that went wrong in that day
ruin your whole day
Not let 5 minutes of a bad day become 24h of a bad day
I know we also have those days that we don't want talk with anyone
you just want to be alone
if that happens, respect that
don't force yourself to be smiling and happy
don't pretend that you're feeling in a certain way because of other people
another thing is don't care about what other people think
don't think "if I do this, they won't like it"
"if I do that someone will judge me"
"if I put those clothes they're going to judge"
fuck it
fuck it
If you feel good about it
if it's not a bad thing of course
you're not going to kill people just because you feel good doing it
that's wrong
As long as it's something that is good for you
and you're not going to hurt anyone
do it
fuck what they think
about the clothes
has a lot to do with the aesthetics and "standard body"
if you feel good with that piece of clothes, wear it
even if people judge or say something
if you feel good, wear it
and wear it with confidence
self love has nothing to do with having a standard body
in my case, the fact that I lost weight
and that I'm more toned - well not so much now
for me, it helped because I looked in the mirror
and I didn't like what I was seeing
and now I look in the mirror and I like what I see
and that helps
but that doesn't mean that for you to love yourself you have to lose weight
If you don't like something try to change it
but you don't have to do it because society wants you to do it
because society says that you have to be skinny
No
if you're chubby but you feel good like that
Are you healthy?'
If you're healthy, fuck it
You just have to feel good about yourself
that is the most important, doesn't matter if you're skinny or if you're fat
Think about yourself
you come first
Forgive
don't hold grudges
don't keep that thing inside
on your throat because you didn't say anything
if someone upsets you
let those first moments pass
that we want to kill someone
killing people is wrong
talk with that person and try to solve everything
avoid keeping things for yourself because that's not healthy
Be brave for new things
don't be afraid to take a risk
don't be afraid of taking the next step
I already told this in a video
a lot of people told me that I was really brave for going to a "unknown" place
that's exactly it
Not being afraid of changes
not being afraid of taking risks
you'll never know what's on the other side of the "jump"
I'm so philosophical
Like I said
Self love is something that you have to work on
you have to see yourself with other perspective
one thing my psychologist suggested was to do a list with my qualities
I'm nice person - I write nice
I'm funny - I write funny
Everything that I think that are my qualities, I write it down
and after, talk with friends
and ask them to do a list of 5 things they like about me
5 qualities
and then take both lists and compare it
because the way you see yourself it's not the same way people sees you
and then you start working on it
and you can do the same with your flaws
and try to improve them
once again, self love is something that you have to work on
and comes from the inside
you don't need other people's validation
so start to work on yourself
and try to be a better person and love yourself even more
and that's it
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