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Good morning. Good Morning. So last time we talked about the difference between emotions

and feelings and then through the conversation we started talking about

lonely loneliness versus being alone so I want to kind of continue that. Yeah

this is a this is a tough topic because my observation is the vast amount of

people are lonely. Mm-hmm. And I think lonely a lot of times is we have

expectations about what should be happening what marriage should be like

what relationships should be like and

and somehow it doesn't all gel it doesn't connect and when I look at

people there's lots of people we know and do they're really outgoing they're

laughing a lot and then they commit suicide.

Right. You know it's it's like how's that possible? They have everything. They have

everything in terms of what appears to be everything. But somehow or another the

sense of internal satisfaction internal connection doesn't seem to be there. You

know and and I understand that I you know in my reality growing up there was

points in time in my high school days where I had friends and there were

points and times in when I was in politics you know elected official and

boy I had lots of room to have all kinds of connection with people and it was and

yet it was really lonely. You know there was places where I would stay home on a

Saturday night and read a book everybody thought I was in one of six different

places so but so how do you make sense of lonely to a great extent? One of the

things that I noticed particularly in relationships that we get relationships

somewhat confused and all lumped together and what it should be and you

and I have talked about this and played in this for years there's really kind of

three bubbles that if they're defined it seems to help there's a me bubble there

is a you bubble and there is a wee bubble. And they all have different

characteristics and components to them and a lot of times we get them very

confused we think you should be taking care of me. Or this is what a

relationship is, this is what a marriage is and and and my times I was the very most

lonely in my life was when I was married. Not not to you of course. Of course. But

when another marriage it was I was just very lonely and and I realized once I

learned about bubbles that there was no me bubble. Yeah, no me buble. There was no me bubble and

that's where I think a lot of times that loneliness happens is I have

expectations that you should be taking care of me or they should be doing this

and if they do this then therefore I would be happy. Or that I have the

expectation that I'm the person in the relationship to take care of the other

person. Sure so there's lots of you know assisting being nurturing being kind to

that's that's different than taking care of. But this space of bubbles is really

important so what does your me bubble look like and my me bubble has no

relationship to your you bubble. You know I like X and you don't have any

interests in X at all so when X is being demonstrated as my thing what happens

is it gets dragged into a we bubble where the other person says that's a

strange thing you're doing that's a weird thing you're doing and so all of a

sudden I stop doing my X and then you stop doing your Y and then pretty

soon we bring this down to some fictitious common denominator

where neither of us are doing what we expected. And there's a level of I think the

word is codependency -Codependency sure- that's you you are all I have.

Yeah and -There's no me -and you're not making me happy you're not doing what I want so it

gets very convoluted in how we anticipate relationships with other

people and consequently this word lonely comes into play quite often. But let's

talk about bubbles for a minute so I like X and the way that we've worked out

bubbles a lot of times you don't care for X at all -bicycling -yeah so bicycling is

not your thing and I like to go out and ride 30 40 50 miles and come back and I

enjoy myself. The way that we've related to that it's

like in terms of some of your gardening things I like gardening but -Or my dance class -or your

dance class better example so the way we've worked that out is I get really

happy and excited when you have a great day of dancing. I'm not interested in

that level of dancing but when you come back and say I did this I was really

excited I had so much fun I am happy. Yeah. You know we would take that a

little further into one of the distortions we've talked about in life

is this concept of loving somebody. And so I love you well I love you in how

most people say that is I put my love over there but in real terms when you're

happy I smile. Yes. When you're unhappy I don't smile and so if I can do something

that makes you smile then I feel good. Yes. And so in a way the

more appropriate expression is I love me when I'm with you and so why would I

beat you up and punish you and abuse you and insult you as happens and lots

of relationships -Cuz it feels yucky in your space when you do that. It feels terrible

I don't like me I'm emotion, I'm frustrated I am

in an emotion expressing something that's making you feel bad or put down.

So that space of I love me when I'm with you it gets really interesting because

if I can do something to make you laugh I feel good. Right. At the same time if I

can enjoy myself and come back and say boy I just had this great bike ride and

your response is gee I'm so excited that you're having a good time -Yeah -that's a

pretty balanced type of relationship. There are other things that are in the

we space that we don't in bring bicycling in or we bring dancing into

that space and in that we space I again don't have expectations or our

expectations are more clearly defined. This is what our we space is. Well and when

we do a we thing we verbally a lot of times say this is a we thing. Yeah.

And that and that helps us identify this bubble right just like when I do my dan-

I do my dancing and I go to see my trainer this is me time. Exactly. And and

that helps me in my mind identify oh and it helps me enjoy it a little more oh

this is a we thing. Yeah and we define it as we things we would simply say you

know we haven't been doing enough we time. Yes. You know let's do something

that's a we thing well so you know it's it's so where the focus begins to be on

what do you like what do I like what do we like. And so that aspect of loneliness

or disconnect gets interrupted I think much more effectively when there's a

sense of definition of me you and a we. Yeah. And the process of engaging with

people -and it's in that we space where you take out the me and you so it doesn't

get cluttered up and then we what do we want to do begins to be a co-creative

space rather than well I was hoping we would go to such and such you know and

it's like well okay it wasn't a we it was a obligation.

Obligation we've gotten away from the original topic of lonely so let's just

let that be and then we can you know another week we can -Well now that we've

talked I'm not lonely anymore. So lonely we can talk about a little bit more so

so that's all I know. Good. So what should we do now? Let's have

a we thing. Okay we can have a we conclusion is that okay?

Yeah. We are we are concluding now go out and have a nice we me you time and

enjoy yourself.

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CTAL Podcast #13 - Self Care and Minfulness - Duration: 7:44.

Hi, welcome to the podcast from the Center for Teaching and Assessment of Learning at the University of Delaware.

I'm Rose Muravchick Assistant Director at CTAL and I'm joined today by Mike Mackenzie. Hi, Mike

Mike is the Assistant professor in

Behavioral Health and Nutrition and also the Director of the Mind-Body Behavior lab and he joined us to facilitate our most recent

Round table about Mindfulness Practices and incorporating mindfulness into the classroom. So let's start with the title as we often do

What does mindfulness mean for you?

And how do you define that in the work that you do?

So mindful for an us for us is really focused around paying attention in the present moment on purpose without a lot of extra

Chatter rods, you know, our minds can kind of wander off all sorts of different places

So we tend to steal that narrative a little bit terms of the work that we're doing on campus with faculty

we really help them in terms of facilitating their attention both in terms of

concentration and just really simple awareness in terms of what's going on with itself and in our environment. So we did a little icebreaker

exercise in the beginning to get people attune to this way of thinking

So, can you describe for our listeners how we started our whole session?

So the beauty of mindfulness is it's really something that you can apply to anything that you're engaged in and well the first thing that

we were doing is a collective was eating so there was an opportunity

it was an opportunity really to just sort of slow down the pace of

something that's oftentimes habitual that we don't think about

in terms of both the sensation of eating in terms of everything that's sort of occurring in terms of taste in terms of touch and

smell as well as just watching where the mind goes when you're engaged in this in this really simple behavior

whether it's thoughts of food that you've had that similar before or other things of that nature.

So a very simple awareness practice using something that we're doing routinely all the time. Yeah

It was a nice way to get us all kind of focused and into the practice of the whole topic of the roundtable topic

But also so straightforward you could do that at every meal

Basically the way you begin eating paying attention bringing yourself to that focus

So it's easy to replicate I think absolutely even if it's just a couple of bites.

Yeah, so our faculty were very interested in this topic. We had great attendance

which lets us know that people are interested in mindfulness practices, generally

but what are some of the benefits for faculty in incorporating mindfulness exercises into their classes?

So for our faculty, it's been a really interesting experience here on campus

we were originally approached just to do faculty development and to work with faculty around their own stresses and challenges in terms of

living in the academic world, as a function of that people were saying that this is really great

But we'd also like to see how we can bring this into the classroom. So we've run a couple of initiatives on campus

Where we're trying to work with faculty to do that. The other thing that we've just recently developed is a

one-credit program for undergraduates

where they can engage in mindfulness

practices throughout the course of this semester the benefit I think for both in terms of what we're hearing

Is that it over time It tends to create more clarity

Stress does become more

manageable and people are noticing that it's highlighting their their sort of sense of connection with other people that are both engaged in the program

and in terms of other interpersonal relationships. That's really important, especially this time of year

I mean we could see in all of our participants that May this time of the calendar was pretty rough for everybody

and so

Even though it seems like it's hard to take some of that time out. There's a real benefit for everybody to develop these

habits really it's kind of what you guys were talking about was small regular practices, right? Yeah

I mean, I think that's really well said so really just Kelly hona or concentration our general awareness and create some useful mental habits.

Yeah, but not everybody is always a hundred percent comfortable with these kinds of exercises

so we heard from some of our participants who had a lot of familiarity

So some folks who do yoga some people who do meditation who seemed pretty comfortable

but several of our participants described earnestly, you know how this might be challenging

So what are some of those frequent challenges or roadblocks maybe that people have in trying to adapt to a mindfulness practice?

I think the biggest challenge that we often hear both from people is that they're so busy

Where are they gonna fit in just one more thing?

So a lot of the work that we do on on campus is really creating practices that are doable

So generally rather than taking, you know one or two chunks out of the day to do practices

We're doing much smaller practices that people can intersperse throughout the day.

Yeah.

The other thing we find is that people certainly have preferences in terms of which of these sort of mindful practices are of benefit

to them, some people like a really active practice like a yoga practice.

Some people are more focused on stillness type practice,

Other people are really focused on interpersonal

relationships and the beauty of the work that we do is we can really work with people around what their interests and background are to

To do something that's a bit more prescriptive that they that they're more likely to have some success with in continuing.

Yeah. And our participants got a chance to try several of these different kinds of practices to get a sense of what's out there

But I also think that's a good way to model that for students

Also, they have the same challenges there might be different ways that are more effective for them to also bring more awareness.

So they got to practice some breathing exercises

we did some focus and concentration exercises.

What are some of the other areas that people focus on in these mindfulness practices?

So you've highlighted a number of areas. So we generally work from five different areas. So the

practices that are around creating some focus, practices that are just around

honing our basic attentional awareness capacities,

practices that are focused on on the body, so whether that's a breath or some other physical sensation,

practices that are geared towards

interpersonal awareness and Relations

and the fifth thing that we do is is really working around what's going on in your external environment that you might be able to

To calm down some what. The example that we talked a lot about was a cell phone usage, right?

Right, so we know that people are using their cells upwards of three and five hours a day

It's a lot of cognitive bandwidth to be to be

directing that way and we find that if we can help people to to limit some of those

stimuli that can be really, really helpful. And it's one that's a great example of something where if you as a faculty member

Concentrate on developing that awareness yourself it's easier for you to help your students understand

the importance of that we get a lot of questions from faculty about technology use in the classroom

And this is an interesting way to frame that for students to say, you know

there are challenges you will face in the rest of your kind of attention span focus and concentration

because of as you said this bandwidth being taken up by other distractors may be.

Absolutely. This is certainly one of those opportunities to do as I do

yeah, and in working with our faculty, we see that at the end of the

Our time together whether it's a six-week program or whatever we're doing. They're often much more aware of how they are engaged in the classroom

let alone some of these practices that they can they can share with students.

So it's it's an interesting learning curve. Yeah

Well, we had a great experience with practicing what we were preaching what you are doing research about

I think this will probably be a regular feature in the month of May given how stressed everybody is then

And I hope that our participants got a chance to learn about some things

Maybe they weren't familiar with and get us an opportunity to practice so that hopefully in the fall

they can approach all of the tasks they have for that semester with a little more clarity and focus

So thank you for joining us. You're very welcome. And we really look forward to having more of these initiatives and programs on campus

so this is a great opportunity Thanks. So our programming for the round tables is done for this year

It's CTAL

But we will be back with more events more round tables and more workshops

starting in August and if you need any more information about other seat all programs as well as the other roundtables for this year and

Podcasts you can visit our website at seat all you CTAL@udel.edu. Thanks,. Thanks Mike. You're very welcome to

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Mindset: Self-Defense - Duration: 8:34.

your ability to be safe your availability to defend yourself has

every bit to do with your mindset that it does to do with your knowledge and

your experience and other facets that happen to deal with those situations hi

if we haven't met before my name's John Ruman. I'm an international business

coach and consultant I'm also a fourth degree black belt and master in the

martial art of Taekwondo and I'm having you warrior retreat the first of July

let me tell you about mindset it is what differentiates those who can't focus and

are unable to think clearly in stressful situations have you ever been highly

stressed and done something stupid that in hindsight you wish you never had done

that's because when you are in high-stress situations and you're

freaking out an adrenaline is pumping trust me it's pumping to in a certain

extent but the ability to create clarity calm a cool mind and breathing deeply

can literally allow you to make a thought that is more intelligent than

otherwise a lot of people especially men this is a men's retreat that I'm doing

get very excited and angry and the problem is when you act like that it may

feel great but you act unintelligently has anyone ever heard of road rage which

is someone cuts you off and you ruminate on it you you chew on it you you you it

Fester's in your mind until you explode it and do something really really really

stupid and it's purely your inability to create resilience in high-stress

situations to think clearly to breathe clearly to understand that there are

other options other than violence that this is your response to the

situation and that is your choice so with that mind even realizing that in

the moment you have a response that you're experiencing helps you to stay

calmer than you would otherwise now if you have a gun pulled on you in a knife

or some very very very high-stress situation that in the moment if you can

breathe calmly and try to have a level of stillness within you that can

actually bring down the situation to a less severe state and proximity for you

physically emotionally the danger of it if you will that will help you to act

smarter when the time comes so this is something we will be going over me and

the men in the men's warrior retreat to help you to have better clarity such

that when things come up that you have high stress situations and I'm talking

specifically a self defense life-threatening or just physically

threatening or someone else is being threatened that you don't do something

stupid that gets you or something else someone else killed or really hurt

because it feels great at the moment and it seemed like the right thing to do so

again we will discuss the power of deep breathing and trying to remain calm and

how to breathe and how breathing will impact how you feel and the power of

deep breathing you notice when when you freak out you actually bring either

chest and higher that's a that's a stressful breathing state that is a

response to the craziness that you're responding to outside and that responds

to a lot of extent is your choice so the calm grounded powerful person can

breathe deeply understand what's happening and have a higher chance of

reasoning with whatever the situation in person is to even if they can't create

good dialogue to come up with a better

decision in the moment that can make everyone involved safer and no one gets

hurt you no one dies all those awful things so this is something we'll be

covering in the workshop it brings up a very valid point that people think

self-defense it's all about you know beating someone up and while that is

nice to have the ability and knowledge to have some fundamentals it takes years

of practice and even then in the moment we still have it's called a flinch

response and the flinch response can make us not do what we need to do and

then bad stuff happens so it's important to understand things that you can learn

that validate and use the flood response to your advantage but also understand

that by trying to learn too much and trying to remember it makes it such that

what it matters it's ineffective so I would encourage you to learn less but

more effective techniques rather than a million a million random ones at a

million classes and say oh this will save my life because it's helpful but

honestly less is usually more and less is usually more for your mind and you're

not overloaded with potential things to do so because again the instinct

fight-or-flight is a good one get out of there is really what you need

to be thinking how can I get out of the situation safely and help those around

me get out of it safely as well so so here's a little bit about the bottom

industry we will be doing about an hour of self-defense and it will cover the

mental state how to achieve how to better enhance that so when the time

comes hopefully you'll be more balanced and calm will also will discuss actual

practical things you can do someone's in front of you behind you to where to

strike how to make it appear that you're not being in a defensive or offensive

mode and in actuality you are and just how to how to do this a little more

effectively so it starts on the 1st of July it is in Santa Cruz at the colibri

State las hermanas and it is from 9 a.m. to approximately 1 p.m. they go a little

longer than that 9:00 to 1:00 is the scheduled time it again

self-defense will be in the morning then we're going to learn Hakka style

grounding and a little bit of Qigong grounding and energy techniques that

will make you feel powerful and then we will leverage and calm those so we can

run up or walk up hike up the mountainside without being too fatigued

again this is not designed to be a killer workout this is more designed for

a bunch of guys to hike up the mountain there will be an obstacle course and if

it's a too big a deal for you physically if we can just walk around the obstacle

so that's not a big deal and and then when we come down we'll

have a couple sandwiches for lunch and a piece of fruit you're gonna have before

or after so let me know what questions you have the total investment for this

is 450 TT and you put 250 up front to claim your spot 200 on the day or just

pay the whole thing at one time and shoot me a message if you're connecting

me on Instagram you shoot me a message below if you're on Facebook I'm actually

posting this on the event so you can just register there and me or someone

from my team will reach out to you any questions I'd love to hear them your

feedback and what it is said I'd love to hear that as well so shoot me a message

if you need a what's out there call me you can call my cell 744-8555 again

7448555 thank you again July 1st Santa Cruz in Trinidad 450 TT 9 a.m. to 1:00

p.m. thanks so much have an awesome rest of

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MORTGAGE LENDING CRITERIA SELF EMPLOYED: BIGGEST MYTH MAY BE RIGHT - Duration: 6:31.

mortgage lending criteria self-employed the biggest meth may actually be right

mortgages rely upon the provincial land registry system to determine what

obligations are secured against real property and in what order of priority

when it comes to mortgage lending criteria self-employed a recent court

decision has proven that when it comes to the self-employed if there is a

deemed trust claim by Canada Revenue Agency CRA you cannot solely rely upon

the registry system the court case I am referring to is Canada v

toronto-dominion bank 2018 FC 538 Kenley which was heard in federal court in this

matter the crown on behalf of Her Majesty looked to recover funds

toronto-dominion bank TD obtained from one of its clients who repaid a loan

secured by a home mortgage upon the sale of his house the client was a

self-employed person the crown claimed that there was an outstanding Deane

trust claim for collected by unremitted GST the crown further claimed that the

proceeds from the sale of the home collected by TD was subject to the CRA a

deemed trust claim was therefore property of Her Majesty and that TD had

to pay it over TD did not take the position that it had a registered first

charge and was entitled to keep the funds it argued that as a bona fide

purchaser for value it is not subject to the deemed trust claim and does not have

to pay over the money the borrower carried on a landscaping business as a

sole proprietor in 2007 and 2008 he collected and did not remit GST totaling

67,000 $854 TD held both a registered mortgage and a home equity line of

credit talak against the borrower's home the

home was sold in 2011 and the borrower repaid the mortgage and Halleck in full

from the sale of the home almost two years later in April 2013

CRA may demand on TD for repayment of 97 thousand

$327 revised in 2015 by amended demand in the amount of 67,000 $854 TD refused

to pay the federal court reviewed the legislation the court decided that the

funds paid to Gd from the sale of the house were proceeds of the sale of his

property which was caught by the deemed trust CRA claimed so the court found

that the requirements of section 222 of the excise tax act were met the court

agreed with the Crown's position that the deemed trust Canada claim covered

the debtors house notwithstanding there was no registration on title and that

the bank had proper valid registrations the court further agreed that according

to section 222 three of the Income Tax Act the bank has an obligation to pay

over the proceeds it received which were impressed with the deemed trust the

court disagreed with TD's position t-d also offered certain public policy

issues in its defense but the court was not swayed the court ordered t d to pay

over the amount of sixty seven thousand eight hundred fifty four dollars

interest and costs the biggest myth is as follows when doing mortgage lending

to self-employed people when you want to find out what claims there are against

the real property you only have to perform a title search this is an

important decision for mortgage lending criteria self-employed people what this

means for mortgages is that they can no longer just accept funds from a

self-employed person who wishes to pay off the loan be it a mortgage or other

type of loan from the sale of property it also cannot merely accept funds to

pay off a loan from a self-employed individuals business bank account rather

the lender also must now obtain a true copy of a statement from CRE showing

that there are no amounts owing by the self-employed person on account of

either HST or source deductions as the employer of others lenders would also be

well advised to add language to their loan term sheet loan documents and any

other documents issued when a loan is repaid the new language would be an

attestation by the self-employed borrowers that there are no amounts

owing to any government authority that would be

considered or deemed to be a trust claim further the language would have to make

it clear that in the event there were any such amounts owing even if the loan

was fully repaid the lender had the right to demand and sue the borrower for

any amounts proven to be a deemed trust claim that the lender was required to

pay over to the government at some later date does your business need HST and

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Tracy Morgan warns his younger self about the one thing that can stop him - Duration: 4:54.

Tracy Morgan stars in the popular show "The Last O.G.," filmed in the same Brooklyn neighborhood where he grew up

The comedian and actor showed his skills in an impressive lineup of shows including "Def Comedy Jam," "Saturday Night Live," and "30 Rock

"  In our ongoing series, Note to Self, Morgan reflects on his childhood, his comedy career that began more than 20 years ago, his serious injuries from a 2014 car accident, and his subsequent recovery

Morgan shares those life lessons in a heartfelt message to his 6-year-old self

 Dear Little Tracy, I know you're scared right now and that's alright

Your dad just left and he was your protector. You're going to be mad at him for a long time, but try to remember he was a good man

He went away and fought for his country, but came back hooked on heroin

Your mom couldn't have him in the house. She had five kids to raise and she couldn't raise them around a drug addict

It's going to be hard, but you're going to make it. Other people in your life are going to man up, or kid up, like your older brother Jimmy

I love you, Jim. I know he's handicapped and can't fight all the bullies in the neighborhood when they pick on you, but he's going to protect you in other ways

He's gonna show you how to use your brain and not your fist or a gun

Of course, it's not going to be easy. To paraphrase Bette Davis, "It's going to be a bumpy life

"You'll watch all the old movies like, "Maltese Falcon", "Angels with Dirty Faces", and your favorite "To Kill a Mockingbird

" For some reason, you're drawn to these films. They'll be asking, "Why is this little black kid in the projects watching old ass white movies starring old ass white people?" Don't worry about them, though

You're going to do a lot of things people think are crazy because you are a little crazy, boy

There's nothing wrong with that. Listen to me. Just embrace it

It's gonna come in handy. They're going to think you're crazy when you move in with your girlfriend named Sabina and her two sons when you're 22 and jobless

This woman, she's gonna be the one that's going to become your wife and gonna be the one to encourage you to get on stage and be funny

She's gonna say, "I know you funny boy, pull the trigger." And remember once you're on stage making them laugh, you're on your way

No heckler can hurt you. Hey man, you've made killers in the projects laugh so a heckler don't mean nothing

Some drunk dude in a comedy club making fun of your propeller hat, that can't intimidate you

You won't be intimidated by nothing. Not even auditioning for TV shows like "Saturday Night Live

" Hey, when it comes to show business you've seen your favorites like Eddie Murphy and Richard Pryor, George Carlin, you've seen them do it a thousand times so it ain't gonna mean nothing to you

The only thing that can stop you little boy, is the same thing that stopped your dad – drugs and alcohol

It'll cost you your marriage. You'll lose a good woman but not your life

You'll sober up and you'll still be funny. Nothing's gonna stop you, not even a Walmart truck

You may not know it now, but you're strong, man. You're strong

You'll have a lot of things going for you. Second chance at love and life

 Someday you're going to be a protector of your own family. And you will never ever leave