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hello what's up y'all I have decided to start documenting my self-care practice

and also the journey I am going on with trying to build my social enterprise

okay so anyway here I am sitting I just did my yoga practice the one thing I

want to say about this and it is somewhat judgmental is that there's

westernized yoga that is very healthy and good for you but I think it's maybe

more about having a tight butt or building some sort of body that you

think you need the yoga that I practiced is much more steeped in mindfulness and

it's about relaxation paying attention to the breath and etc so do I think one

is better than the other maybe I think there's a clear distinction and I think

a lot of people get thrown off yoga because they go in and it's all about

how many Sun Salutations you can do and how many flows and they're like oh man I

can't keep up and then they get discouraged and they go so if that is

your case I suggest you look for a different type of yoga that is more

suited to you just like everything else I didn't want to do it I didn't want to

practice I got a million things to do today but I was taught to make myself

care and well-being the number one thing important thing in my life and because

of that I've been able to heal and grow and turn into the person that I am today

and so that's why although it is difficult at times I force myself to do

these things before I do anything else because without them I don't have

anything else and that is a message that that was drilled into my head early on

in my recovery journey and one that I hold dear just like anyone else I make

excuses my mind tells me all the different reasons why I should not be

doing the things to take care of myself because I have to do my homework because

I have to do my business work because I have to respond to an email because I

have to clean up the floor do the dishes our minds have this incredible capacity

to manipulate us and to make us think we need to do things that we

maybe don't necessarily need to do that's my story I'm sticking to it I'm

off to a meeting with a professor from U of T who's helping me draft a position

statement for all the work that I'm creating and then later in the afternoon

I'm going to do a mental health workshop with a youth basketball camp so I'll be

back to check in then and if you will put your hand on your heart and feel it

feel it and say it with me my state of mind starts with me okay peace

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Why Self-Discipline is so Hard - Duration: 9:35.

This is Odin, also known as the All-father.

He will become the wisest and most powerful of the Norse gods, but not yet.

For now, he hangs from Yggdrasil, the world tree that holds all nine worlds together,

with a spear lodged in his chest.

He will hang there for nine days, and nine nights, on the border between life and death.

All the while, he peers down into the magical waters of the well below, calling out for

the godly knowledge of the runes.

Satisfied with his sacrifice, they emerge, revealing to him their wisdom and bestowing

him with great power.

Odin had given himself to himself.

Or, more specifically, he sacrificed his present-self for his future-self.

It's no coincidence that he had to perform the greatest sacrifice for the greatest reward.

This story is, at the least, a metaphor for self-sacrifice or self-discipline.

And, it's one that we have been telling for generations.

Humanity has held the virtue of self-control in such high regards that it's a staple in

most religions and the moral of many myths.

In Christianity, the first sin - eating the forbidden fruit - was a lapse in self-control.

In Greek mythology, evil entered the world when Pandora could not control her curiosity

and opened the box.

This myth, in particular, has even entered our everyday language.

If I want you to avoid a temptation, for fear of causing disastrous consequences, I might

warn you against "opening Pandora's box".

The elevation of this virtue to religious and mythic proportions highlights a commonly

held belief: self-discipline plays a huge role in leading you to your best future, as

in the case of Odin, or your worst one, as with Pandora.

If this is true, it seems like it would be great if we could all have some more self-discipline.

But, what is self-discipline?

People often use the term to describe someone who makes "good" long-term decisions by overcoming

short-term temptations and that's reasonable.

But, when you ask them how they overcome these short-term temptations, they often invoke

some sort of *will* or *willpower*.

What *will* actually means isn't really obvious.

But, before we get to that, let's start at the beginning: the decision.

At any point in time, you're making a decision on how to act.

The difficulty arises when you have to make a decision between what's immediately gratifying

versus what is not gratifying now, but will be in the future.

In other words, the difficulty lies in delaying gratification.

But, what causes you to not act impulsively?

The reason for any single decision you make is multivariate: genes, hormones, evolution,

social environment, physical environment, past experience, context of the situation,

and a multitude of other factors all play a role.

But, the most immediate cause of any of your actions can be traced back to your brain activity.

When discussing self-discipline, one of the best places to start is with the neurotransmitter

dopamine.

In his book *Behave*, Robert Sapolsky puts forth an example that clarifies at least one

of the primary roles of dopamine in our brains.

Let's say that I take a monkey and stick him in a cage.

Now, I put a lever in there that, if he pushes it 10 times, rewards him with a raisin.

Next, I turn on a light that comes on before the lever enters the cage.

In other words, the light signals that the lever will be entering the cage which, in

turn, signals that the monkey will be able to get a raisin.

As a result, the monkey learns to associate the cue (a light) with the reward (a raisin).

Interestingly, the monkey will begin to release more dopamine in response to the light than

he does when consuming his reward.

Contrary to popular belief, *dopamine is about anticipation more than it is about reward

[8]*.

Certain cues in our environment hint at a potential reward and dopamine starts to rise

in anticipation.

*Dopamine is what gets us to take action with respect to a goal [8].* So, how does this

relate to self-discipline?

Let's say that you're deciding between an immediate reward and a delayed reward.

When you think about the immediate reward, dopamine is sent to certain parts of the brain

known as limbic targets [8].

When you think of the delayed reward, dopamine is sent to a different part of the brain known

as frontocortical targets [8].

If the part of the brain associated with delayed reward is more stimulated, you're more likely

to delay gratification [8].

Again, dopamine plays a role in *driving* our action.

So, how does your brain decide how much dopamine is sent to each part?

Again, this comes down to several complex factors such as past experiences, genes, hormones,

social environment, physical environment, the context of the situation and so on.

But, pragmatically, the brains decision is affected by how pleasurable the reward is

and how much time it takes to get that reward [8].

Here's an example to help you understand it intuitively.

Let's say that I make you an offer: you can have $100 today or $100 tomorrow.

The reward is the same but the time delay is greater in the second scenario.

You'll probably take the $100 today because there's no point in waiting until tomorrow.

But, what if I said that you could get $100 today or $200 tomorrow?

It's more likely that you'll be willing to wait, if an extra $100 is pleasurable enough.

But, what if I said that if you wait until tomorrow, you could get $101.

You'll probably revert back to taking the $100 today.

Your brain does multiple calculations like this every time you decide.

It creates a sense of wanting or reward seeking based on the speed and size of a reward.

So, how do you end up determining what rewards to seek?

To live life is to have desires.

The world fills you up with needs and wants, inviting you to come and interact with it.

Every time you satisfy a desire, you receive an internal reward and a belief forms about

how you did it.

When that desire re-emerges, your brain activates the corresponding belief circuitry and dopamine

releases, in anticipation of the reward, which motivates you to repeat the same action as

before.

In other words, you begin to form a habit.

With each repetition, the neural pathway strengthens and you solidify the habit's role as the solution

to your desire.

Here's the punchline: habits mediate the relationship between an individual's desires and their

environment.

To change the habit, the individual, the environment, or both have to change, and that's why self-discipline

is so hard.

We have little control over the biology that determines our desires.

According to Sapolsky, individuals with ADHD have abnormal dopamine responses when thinking

about immediate rewards vs delayed ones: they're biased towards impulsive action [8].

Individuals who experience a childhood adversity are more likely to have an underdeveloped

frontal cortex, making delayed gratification more difficult [8].

Eventually, we may be able to change an individuals biology using science, but the morality and

long-term consequences of this are questionable.

There is a part of our biology that *is* more malleable: the brain.

An individual can be changed with education.

As people learn more about the world, they can test out new beliefs and reinforce new

behaviors.

But, this leads me to the heart of the issue.

Self-discipline is much more of an environmental problem than it is an individual one.

While an individual can change their beliefs and behaviors through education, the resources

available for education are presented by the environment.

Furthermore, the habits an individual builds to meet their desires are, in large part,

a product of what's available in the environment.

A study done by neuroscientist Carl Hart found that when meth addicts were given a choice

between $5 and 50mg of meth, the addicts took the $5 half of the time [11].

When he increased the value of the cash reward to $20, they almost never took the drug [11].

He found similar results with crack cocaine addicts [11].

Hart suggests that addicts are actually rational decision makers, and will choose not to take

a drug when there are "alternative reinforcers" [11].

It seems that drug habits are more likely to be formed when individuals are in an environment

that offers no alternative or competing ways to meet their desires.

Bruce Alexander found similar results when he conducted his now-famous study: *Rat Park*

[12].

Prior to Alexander's study, it was commonly believed that addiction was caused primarily

by drugs.

When you take a drug, you get addicted.

That's how the story went.

But, Alexander noticed that most drug-related studies occurring at the time placed rats

in isolation.

He wondered if this played a role in the rats deciding to take the drug.

It turns out that it did [12].

When rats were in isolation, it wouldn't be a surprise to see them consume a drug until

they died.

But, when Alexander constructed a "Rat Park" complete with friends, sexual partners, toys,

and so on, rats were much less likely to take the drugs.

Both of these studies present an interesting idea: addiction is much less likely to occur

when you have greater access to alternative ways to meet your own desires.

In his *Meditations,* Marcus Aurelius said that,

We were born to work together like feet, hands and eyes, like the two rows of teeth, upper

and lower.

To obstruct each other is unnatural.

To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him: these are unnatural.

People are a product of their environments a lot more than we like to think.

By acknowledging this, we can have more compassion for one another but, more importantly, we

can begin helping one another.

By providing people with as many opportunities as possible for learning and alternative ways

to meet their needs, we can eradicate the problem of self-discipline.

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This Udacity grad learned with a global community to master self-driving cars - Duration: 1:48.

My name is Abhi and I just completed the Self-Driving Car Nanodegree program.

For a really long time I've been really interested in medicine and its

intersection with technology, and that's kind of always been my motivation to

learn computer science. But after I actually completed my undergrad

artificial intelligence course, I just realized I was really interested in a

lot of these problems. The Nanodegree program actually allowed me to match a

lot of the theory that I learned in school with implementation. There are

very few places that you're gonna find where there's so much support to

actually help you grow as an individual and to help you make the right career move.

The Capstone Project was phenomenal, predominantly because we actually got to

use ROS. Being able to get exposure to understanding ROS and all of its

capabilities was really exciting. In addition to that, our team was

distributed across the globe. We had someone from Germany, someone from

Singapore, someone from London, from the East Coast and myself. I think what was

really fun for me was I was definitely the junior-most individual on the team.

Everyone on the team either had a Master's or a PhD. But it was great because I had a

huge opportunity to learn from them and to just be able to bond with them and

understand what their backgrounds were as well. It was really cool to just see that

so many people are trying to transition into this industry after having years

and years of experience in another industry, and that's a lot of motivation

for myself to be able to surround myself with some really incredible, talented

engineers as well. There's just so many different things I would love to work on,

but I think the Nanodegree has really helped me to realize that a lot of the

things that I imagined as a kid can start to become reality.

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Self-Confidence｜Why people don't respect you - Duration: 13:28.

Whatever it is you have to do, just think about it...

what can happen?

In 99% of cases, nothing can happen.

If you say something, and it's wrong, you can always say

"oops!"

I was wrong

I've said that on television

who cares?

I might be popular, I might not be popular, but

people will always respect honesty

in a thing like that

So, you try it

maybe it works directly

you try it again...

It will work better. You try it again

and so on...

In this way, you work up

the confidence.

You work up believing in yourself

Chris: So... the scenario is

one guy says something on stage, but he's a little bit

of himself

and doesn't get much of a response.

Someone else says it

but with more confidence in what they're saying

and they get a massive round of applause

How does that work?

Frank: Pretty well! Hehe

It works in all different situations

you have that amongst others;

You have that situation when you're sitting in the classroom as a child

and your ordinary teacher is sick

and a substitute is coming in.

When you think about it...

You see already when this person comes into the room

Whether he has confidence or not.

The same second this person comes in

the kids know alreadyy

"This guy we can make shit with"

"We can make him feel like shit!"

"Like the worst part of shit!"

And another guy comes in,

since I'm a teacher I've been trying that many times,

coming in as a substitute.

Going in, and have them right away.

It works right away, without any kind of a problem

and I'm not doing anything; I'm not threatening them

I'm not throwing them out of the window or anything

nothing at all.

I just sit together with them

and start working

and they know immediately

that this Frank...

It's no use to try to

make him

a fool.

He makes us fools, yeah?

And the same thing goes up when you

come up into University

Exactly the same, "we have this professor

he is the biggest *blablabla*

and... or the other one says

"we got a professor, wow!

this guy doesn't need a microphone or anything, he just talks"

and everybody listens to him, it's something

you have inside of you or you dont

But you can learn how to get it

inside of you. You can learn to have

more confidence in yourself.

And the higher you come; and older you grow

You need more and more confidence.

And the easier it becomes to learn

how to have confidence - that's the funny thing

you just have to overcome

your fear, "I'm never going to

do that, I'm never going to manage"

to "I know what it takes

and since I know what it takes, I can also

present it.

So it's up to you completely, I've helped

many, many people to do that.

It always works.

Chris: How can someone work on becoming

more confident?

Frank: It depends on the person

You can never say "for everybody

without confidence they have to do this, that and the other

It doesn't work

I have to look at you, and I have to see "aha!

there is his problem." and then I take away the problem

and you can function, and the more you

start feeling functionable

the better it becomes

Chris: So a lack of self confidence always exists in the mind

how does that work? Is it an experience

someone has had

that they've held on to

and now it's in their subconscious. How does it normally work?

It works like...

"I'm doing something,

and I'm giving my best

and I see that it actually works

and my brain remembers it

the next time I'm going to do it, the brain remembers that

I actually do have those skills

Maybe not all of them, but the brain rememebers

that a little bit of it

has been there!

And the next time you have a little bit more

and a little bit more, and at the end

you are the one who gives the lectures.

Because you can't cheat your own brain.

You can lie to your brain, the brain will tell you

"Ha ha ha"

Your brain will also tell you "I've been fooling

myself for many years

that I can't do this, that and the other

and now..

"Frank, or whoever it was

told me and showed me

all the things I thought I never could do

I can do them!"

"and he made me do them!"

and it feels so good.

Coming the next time and being able to do more

'Learning by Doing'

A very simple recipe

very efficient REPESEE

recipe... recipe1

Chris: With the initial

process is that you have to first

do the thing you're scared of

How do people tell their mind

How do they give it importance enough to be able

to push past that initial barrier - the 'fear'

Well whatever it is that you have to do

just think about it, what can happen?

In 99% of cases, nothing can happen

If you say something and it's wrong, then you can always

say, "oops!"

there I was wrong.

I've said that on TV, who cares?

I might be popular, I might not be popular but

people will always respect

honesty in a thing like that

So, you try it

maybe it works directly, maybe you try it again

It will work better, you try it again

and so on

in this way you work up

the confidence, you work up

believing in yourself.

and if you have a chance to actually prepare

what you are doing, then the risk or the

chance of doing it 100%

is even bigger - much bigger

Just don't expect from yourself

that you are a master before you have done anything

even the best master

has been studying one time

and has been learning

until he comes higher and higer and higher

and feels...

"Look here, people do actually

respect me"

and then it goes much easier

Another thing is

just think about it...

what do you have to lose?

"Well people will think about me..."

What people?!

Who the hell do they care about you?

Why should they? Are you such a popular

such a well known person that

they say "look here!"

thats him!!

and he's an idiot!

Look around, how many of the people here

do actually know you?How many do you know!?

Then why the hell should you be afraid of talking to them ?

So if you go and talk to them, which I

can do at any time you want me to

and I do it here through this medium

yeah?

Most people don't care who you are

you are not that important in their life.

If you think about it correctly

then you'll find out that.,.

people care more about themselves

and about their own fear of failing

than listening to you

and saying "this is wrong. this is wrong.."

"Oh this idiot!" or anything like that!

Who cares?

Chris! You're playing around with your phone!

Am I so boring? Hahaha!

I'm joking! Chris: I was recording on Instagram at the same time - sorry

a bit distracting...

Chris: You were saying who cares what people think

Do you think that other people's opinions is what

holds most people back from trying something new?

Frank: You have to think about

who cares about you.

Why should they care about you so much so

they listen to ever word and say

"this is wrong, this is wrong..."

are you that important?

So that they can't cope without

listening to you and saying "this is a jerk"

"he's STUPID!"

They will listen to you

many of the things you talk about they don't

understand

So why criticize you when they don't understand

it themselves

and if they do understand it

the mind does something strange...

the mind listens, and transforms

what you say into what it should be

and at the end you say "is there anyone who could help

me a little bit? Tell me! You

know much more than I do"

"So please just help me" You will see

that this person who maybe has been able to switch it over

he will say "yeah you said that about this thing

but maybe you should use this frame" PERFECT!

Thank you very, very much

Chris: That's why we encourage criticism and things like that

on Instagram! Frank: Exactly..

That's totally right

and that's why we've been lucky for 3/4 years

now

and sending so many programs out

and up to now, even so we have

asked people to tell us "can you find

something wrong?"

Do you have a better idea? Please

just write to us, or call us

do whatever you feel like, yeah?

I am not only talking just to hear all the time

Fantastic! Oh good! Fantastic and so on...

I'm here just like everyone else

to LEARN.

Has it occurred to you that being a Doctor, Dr. Frank

that it doesn't mean

that I can know everything?

Has it occurred to you

that if you look only at psychology as such

I think you could study for 2,000 years

without covering everything!

And has it occurred to you, that what is right for you

within psychology, musn't be right for him

or her

All people are unique in their way

and that means also that they react in

unique ways

Isn't it then normal that if I tell you

"oh you're like that and that "

that there is a big chance that I'm wrong ?

and if I'm good at what I'm doing

I tell you that I might be totally wrong.

I am not afraid of saying that because

everyone is learning

I am 73

I hope I live many years yet

and I hope

that I'm going to learn even more years

even after I'm dead

because there is such an enormous amount to learn

and I don't know it yet!

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10 TIPS ON BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE!! | Poppy Lemon - Duration: 5:31.

Hello Lemmings! Welcome back to another video! If you guys are new here,

hello! my name is Poppy Lemon and welcome to my channel! Today

I'm making a video for you guys on how to build some confidence! Over freshman year of high school,

it sucked. Freshman year for me was terrible. I lost almost all of my confidence.

It was the worst year of my life pretty much.

So these are my top 10 tips to build some confidence!

And I've been looking at videos lately, or... I did look up videos over freshman year.

I was very enclosed and there was just a lot of drama and just a lot of crap going on and it sucked

honestly.

and yes by doing some of these things it has helped me build up some,

confidence over the summer and now I'm like a totally different person that I was during school.

So my first tip to gaining some confidence is to take a break from social media.

I know you guys probably hear that a lot in these types of videos and that's because it's true. Over the summer

I have really taken a break from

Instagram and from YouTube. As you can see I have it posted a video in like a month.

There's a lot of toxic things online and a lot of people that can really help bring yourself down.

So I would just recommend if you have an Instagram if you have a YouTube channel,

if you have a Snapchat, if you have... any other type of

social media, I would say that you should take a break.

Maybe you go a couple days without going on it at all, and I would say that it really helps a lot.

And yeah, you'll see a big change! Willingly cleaning something around the house. I don't know.

I went through my closet back here. I totally cleaned it out because it was a disaster.

It was full of a ton of trash and I cleaned it out and then afterwards I felt so much more confident!

Here's a thing that I did over the summer so over freshman year

I did not go one day out of the entire school year without wearing makeup

I wore makeup every single day and I was super self-conscious because I was this

Pimply queen so I would wear makeup every single day

and of course that wouldn't help that would just make all the pimples worse and everything and it just

Sucked so over the summer. I have started wearing less makeup or going days without wearing makeup at all

At first I was very scared because I feel so confident when I wear

It was very hard and going out and about I felt like everybody was looking at me

I felt like everybody was heavily judging me

But that was just all in my head and try to go a couple days without wearing any makeup

just embrace what you look like go out in public talk to people and just be yourself without a mask on pretty much it's

Actually, really eye-opening really helped me out

So maybe I'll help you another tip that could really help it could be as simple as just doing a hobby that you really enjoy

Or finding a new hobby do some sort of crafts that you found online

Try cooking draw a picture paint a picture paints a painting just super simple things

Working out now. I say working out because it can make you feel super good about yourself

Even if you're not even doing anything to your body it as simple as just doing like an ab workout

Video for 10 minutes like it's as easy as that

Here's a really big one that is really important when you're trying to boost your confidence is

Mirrors now a lot of people would walk past a mirror and be like Oh gross

But an easy way to change your mindset on your confidence is when you walk past a mirror think happy thoughts

So think I'm you look good today. Even if you just rolled out of bed, you're kind of in a way

Brainwashing yourself into thinking that you look really good. Even if you don't look good

It's just you can make yourself feel a lot better

There's some other things that could really help you out is doing something different with your appearance

maybe try painting your nails or doing your hair just simple little things like that could really

Make your confidence go staying away from negativity and drama negativity and drama is not fun

Nobody likes being a part of random

negativity that's

Also part of the whole social media thing is since there is a lot of negativity and a lot of drama on social media try

And stay away from that stuff make your own little bubble of happiness and happy thoughts. It could be very helpful

Here is a very very helpful thing make two lists of things

That are pulling you down and make a list of things that are

super fun and happy and with the list of things that make you sad look at that list and

Figure out the things that you could do to make that list smaller, for example if you got your list

There's negative people on like number one look at that and try to get rid of all the negative people in your life not

Literally get rid of negative people

but try to just separate yourself from that negativity and the same is with the positivity list is

take that list and look at whatever you have on there and try to

Really do those things or just act on what your list says if that makes any sense?

I don't know and this final one sort of goes along with the last one that we just did make a new year's style kind

of list where you have everything listed out on things you want to improve on and

Set like deadlines because that can really help too.

So those are my ten ways to boost confidence!

If you guys liked today's video make sure to please subscribe and leave like, because likes are always very very deeply

appreciated! See you guys later!

Bye!

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How to Achieve the Ultimate Goal - by Self-Effort or Grace ? | part-6 - Duration: 12:46.

If somebody makes a mistake and you ask, why did you make the mistake?

No Swamiji, it must be the will of God. Will of God that you make a mistake?

This reminds me of one katha. You know it's a humorous katha that when God made

the world, He gave a uniform lifespan to all living beings. So he gave human

beings the lifespan of 40 years and he gave the same to donkeys and dogs and

birds. So human beings became pretty frustrated. Some of them formed a

delegation and went to the Lord and said Maharaj you have given us 40 years to

live. Our Grihasti (household life) just become set and life gets over. This is totally

unreasonable. Can't you extend our lifespan? So God said alright I'll put

your application in pending. Let's see what's going to happen. You

return for now. A few days went by, and a donkey came mining to God. The donkey

said, my lord what kind of creature am I? I take the burden and put it from here

to there and then from there to here and 40 years go by. Can you not reduce my

lifespan a little bit? God remembered human beings wanted an extension and the

donkey wants a cut. So God removed 20 years from the donkey's lifespan. The

donkey's expectancy now came to 20 years. And he added those 20 donkey years to

human life. So God said, is it okay now? 60 years? Human beings said, 60 years?

Oh Maharaj I still have so many desires, to go to Florida beach and to see

football super bowls etc. Can't you consider a further extension? Gods said,

alright. Then let's see what happens? A few more days went by and a few dogs

came barking to God. The dogs said, Maharaj in what format have you made us?

We keep on barking barking barking. Nobody listens. The car comes, we bark

from here to there and then we get tired. Then a next car comes. we bark from here

to here and then get tired. Can't you reduce our

life? Forty years is a bit too much. so God remember that human being wanted

further extension. God removed twenty years from the dog's life as well. So

dog's life expectancy got reduced to 20. God added those 20 years to human life.

Now the human beings could well now expect to live till 80. God said, is not

alright? Human beings said, Maharaj it is alright, but not fully alright. I want to

see my granddaughter's wedding before I die.

People say, every thing else is alright. But I just want to see my granddaughters wedding and then die.

Everybody is saying, this dadaji (grandfather) is a big nuisance.

Dadaji, don't come close. Otherwise you will fall. You sit and see from far. But

dadaji's mind says, I want to see my granddaughter's wedding and then die.

Can you extend a little more? God said, alright, now let us see what happens.

Finally an owl reached God. The owl said, my lord

have you made me by mistake? When the whole world is awake, I am sleeping.

Because I have such big eyes they get blinded, and when the whole world is

sleeping I am flying from rooftop to rooftop. Please reduce my life. God took

away 20 years from the Owls life and added the owl's life also to human beings. Now

the human life expectancy reached 100 years. It is said, in Kaliyug, God has

given hundred years to human beings. However, what is the nature of those

hundred years? The first fort is alright, the BP is alright, the heart is alright

cholesterol is alright, sugar is alright. Then

after that, the donkey years begin. I have to

clear the mortgage before retiring. I have to settle my son, get my daughter

married etc. and create enough bank balance for retirement. So like the

donkey carry the burden, the human being is going from 40 to 60. These are the

donkey years. At sixty, he hits the dog years. Now the primary duty in the Indian

joint family is to take care of the home. The son says, father I'm going with your daughter-in-law

to see the movie. You take care of the home. And no matter what he says, people

say doesn't matter. He's an old man, let him keep on speaking. These are the dog

years going on. At eighty, the owl years start. Doctor, I can't see. What is going on? Doctor sees,

hmm, you got cataract. "Please remove it." Wait, let the other eye also get cataract. I

will remove both together. So that owl years are going. The whole life goes by

and still human beings don't develop vairagya (detachment) that I was not to go in this

direction. I was supposed to go towards God. That is why the scriptures say that

it is His grace which will make all the difference. What does this lead us to

conclude? Does it mean that we now don't need to do any sadhana? We can just sit

down. Hearing today's lecture is tactically very beneficial, because now

we can exploit this piece of knowledge. Whatever little sadhna, devotion, bhakti,

bhajan, we were doing, we will just put it aside and sit down. And if somebody

asks that do you strive to attain God? You would say, no you know that Mukundananda explained

that you can only know God by His grace. There is no point in

self effort. Nowadays we are just sitting and waiting for the grace

to come. Will it come in 2017 or 18 or 27 or 37? Will it come by plane or railroad

or truck load? Will it come from the north or south or east or west? Where will

this grace come from? In other words, utilizing the principle of grace, we have

given up our effort and become lazy, indolent. is this the proper

understanding of grace? No! His grace is required and our effort is also required.

The Shwetashwetaropanishad says,

your effort and grace of God.

This is your effort. Both endeavors are required, from

the soul and from the side of God. Shri Aurobindo has written a book called 'the

mother'. In the first page, first paragraph, he begins like this: There are two great

powers alone that in their conjunction can affect the great and difficult thing

that is the aim of our endeavor. A fixed and unfailing aspiration that calls from

below and the divine grace that answers from above. Why is our effort necessary?

To receive the grace, you need a vessel. In this case, the vessel is the heart.

You need to purify the heart. Supposing you go to your guru and say, Guru ji

please I am seeking five litres of milk. Can you bestow your grace? The Guru says,

my child I've got a drum of milk. But where is your vessel? Get a vessel. Now

you go and return again. Guruji I have a vessel, please give me the stuff I want.

Guru ji says, my child your vessel has got holes in it. if I pour the milk, it

will get drained away. Don't bring a leaky vessel. Third time

again we come. Guru ji this time there are no leaks.

Guruji says, son it is dirty. If I pour the milk, it will split.

Get a clean vessel. Similarly, we say Guruji give us your grace. Guru says, prepare

your vessel. So our effort is necessary and the grace

of God is also necessary. If we don't consider our effort and marginalize it

that will lead to a disaster. Many people make that mistake.

They think, we don't need to do anything. In fact they go one step further and say

God is doing everything. Nothing is in our hands. There is no Gyani (knower), there is no fool.

If God wants somebody to be a gyani, he becomes a gyani. If God wants somebody to be a fool, he becomes the fool.

So if somebody makes a

mistake and you ask, why did you make the mistake? Swamiji, it must be the will

of God. Will of God that you make a mistake?

It is all His doing. Nothing is in our hands.

If you grew up in India, one sentence you must

have heard thousands of times.

The same sentence comes in the Western world, but it's not so

popular. Not a leaf stirth but by the will of

God. So people say you know that even a leaf cannot stir but by the will of God.

So He is doing everything. Let Him do. I don't need to do anything. Amongst all

the thousands of philosophies that are being propagated in the world, this

particular one is the most disastrous. why? Because then we will not do anything

proper and we will blame God for it. So we need to root this concept from our

heart totally and completely.

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'Jennifer Finds Her Self-Worth' Season Finale BTS | Dietland - Duration: 4:58.

Plum: So many of us live for the idea that a thing,

a person, a place, will fix us, but it never happens.

We all have to live with the parts of us that are broken

and find a way to be happy.

I understood that now.

Noxon: There's this idea of happiness

that it's this thing that you get to have all the time,

if you do it right.

Like, you just get to be happy 24/7,

and it's, like, not the human condition.

There's this illusion that --

it feels very American to me --

that, you know, "You can fix that bad feeling inside."

And to me, that's a trap that really keeps empowering people

who want to abuse us.

So...

I think we were at the part where you were groveling.

I think that Kitty is one of these people

for whom more opportunity has allowed her

to unleash her inner baller.

So, she suddenly feels very empowered.

♪♪

Kiss it.

Excuse me?

My foot -- kiss it.

She's over-the-top all the time.

She always wants to win. That's Kitty.

Kiss my foot...

or take a 50% cut in pay.

Kitty is a bit like a python.

It's like, the more you struggle with it,

the more you become entangled.

I get my job back?

Mm-hmm.

But everything has a price.

Are your scruples worth half your salary?

She throws him a lot of sexual energy,

and it's unnerving.

You know, I don't think he knows which way is up around her.

What I need is your loyalty.

Is that a yes?

Yes, ma'am.

Kitty is a manipulator, and Kitty will create

whatever environment she needs to

to extract what she needs from an individual.

Cheryl: Madame C.E.O...

I'm hoping, now that Stanley is out,

I can get back to reporting the actual news.

Here's the thing...

we've been friends a long time, so this is hard to say.

I feel you've lost your way at UNN.

Noxon: I don't think Kitty has real friends.

I think Kitty has frenemies.

She'll bring them closer as she needs them,

and then, she'll dispense with them.

So, Cheryl is probably smart enough to know

that she's only a friend for as long as she kisses the ring.

King: Cheryl's seen it before.

She knows what this woman's capable of.

And she's told, in no uncertain terms,

you know, who's driving the bus here.

If you feel my job is, I don't know,

mindlessly following orders,

then maybe this isn't the right home for me.

Oh, Cheryl.

I'm so glad you feel the same way.

What happens when you go up against your boss?

You lose your job.

[Door opens, closes]

She says, "mindlessly following orders."

My problem is that having leaders is patriarchal crap.

Yeah, I used to feel the same way, until I realized

how hard it is to get 12 people to agree on anything.

This is how we're going to die.

Nobody's going to catch us.

We are going to talk ourselves to death.

Noxon: After all these ideas of who Jennifer is

and what they stand for and who they're gonna be,

they are just women.

They're women who have gotten fed up,

but they are perhaps the most genuinely bonded tribe

we come across yet.

I think that, um, all the women have some real strength.

And some may not be as obvious when you first see them,

but there's this hidden, underlying fever

that burns in all of them, that unites them.

Noxon: If you've ever been involved in a mission,

and you're all rowing in the same direction, in a way,

that feeling is really powerful.

And they're starting to fray around the edges,

but there's a quality to this tribe of women

that's really beautiful and unexpected.

To Plum, our newest member.

All: To Plum!

-Jennifer lives! -Whoo!

Nash: I think Plum is really struck by Jennifer,

and I think she learns her worth and her value.

That's what she's been looking for, in a sense.

She can't just revert back to her old life.

To me, the theme is, you can't really fight the status quo

unless you know yourself.

Plum thought that being a acceptable size 6 or 4

would fix her and make her happy.

That, as a goal, is not happiness.

It's hope.

I-It's actual hope that you -- that we can change the world.

Plum: What had I learned about myself, really?

I was a fighter, a crazy, adventure-loving, badass mama.

And I really did believe the world could be a better place,

even just a little.

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The Soul Saga: 4 Steps To Reconnecting With Your True Self - Duration: 4:38.

"You can run away from yourself so often, and so much, just because the broken pieces

of you cut your feet too deeply if you stay around for too long."

— C. JoyBell C.

We have all been hurt by others and have even hurt ourselves at times, but have we taken

time to heal?

Becoming absolutely numb in the modern way of life is extremely common because we get

caught up in the rat race.

We're rushing about without pausing to take a deep breath because we fear we'll encounter

the naked truth.

It can be frightening to not know who you are and what you want.

Once you have figured these out, you'll be much more confident and calm.

You will no longer be bewildered and will surely find lasting happiness.

Time is constantly fleeting and it can be overwhelming, but if you are comfortable in

your space, you won't need to blame your predicament on the cruelties of passing moments.

Disconnecting with the universe and making time for yourself can be challenging.

If you can't connect with your own soul, you are on the quickest path to anxiety and

depression.

These steps will help you reclaim your true self:

1.

Meditation This is the best way to cut your contact with

the world and have a good look into your soul.

It is important to reflect, search and be calm.

The constant state of flux the universe is in, may distract you initially but it will

be alright with repeated practice.

Meditation can be of different types and what suits your friend may not work that well for

you.

You must consider your daily routine while you choose from styles like transcendental,

mantra, and mindful.

You don't have to spend hours meditating but concentrate while you do.

2.

Exercise Exercise gives you greater physical strength,

better energy level and amazing self-confidence.

It releases endorphins that uplift your mood making you feel good about yourself.

You also spend time with yourself while exercising.

Don't be impulsive and get a gym membership straight away.

Take some time analyzing your lifestyle.

You need to burn calories and the easiest way is to jog or go for walks.

It will lift your mood too.

You can also try running, aerobics, weight training, or exercise videos.

Yoga is effective for the mind, body, and even the spirit.

3.

Proper Nutrition Eat healthy to stay happy.

Food keeps the body functioning the way it should.

You must not starve yourself in the name of dieting; a proper diet is a balance of the

calorie intake.

Fat, protein, vitamins, the body needs everything and in correct proportions.

Lack of nutrition leads to illness, stress and body image issues.

That doesn't mean you'll eat more than what your body needs.

Divide and plan your meals with the help of an expert.

It will improve your overall well being.

4.

Alone Time This one is a cliché but it is true, spend

time with yourself.

Get to know what you want and how you're feeling.

Think.

Breathe.

Act.

Maintain a journal, take up a hobby, read books or just take a break and relax.

Life is too short to keep wasting your energy in things that don't matter.

Cut the clutter and stay focused.

Rejuvenate because your soul is weary.

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for needing space.

Your mental health is important and you can only be happy if you're content.

Take a step back and reclaim yourself before you lose your soul.