Hi, it's Cherie and today I thought I'd talk about self care.
Self care is basically just when you take care of yourself, it's another practice of self-love
It might mean you taking a walk, making sure that you get plenty of sleep, making sure that
you are eating a healthy balanced and nutritious diet. Sometimes it doesn't
matter how many showers you take, how many walks you take, how many teas you
make yourself, how many movies you watch.. sometimes (you know) what you actually
need to do in your life is to confront the blockages in your life, the issues in
your life and to resolve them and make the intention to let go. A lot of people
get comfortable being depressed and being negative and I was definitely one
of those people. Somehow you even get addicted to being depressed but as soon
as you hit rock-bottom and I've definitely been there but
you'll make a decision and you'll vow to yourself you'll promise to yourself that
you will never be a sad unhappy or negative person ever again and I made
that decision personally two years ago and I've never looked back. Some people
might say it's not that easy and I agree it definitely is not that easy I
personally had depression for around six years. So step one is to make the
intention to change your life and who you are and as soon as you do that
you'll transform your entire life. Just that intention...just that decision that you
make. You know, screw self care that's the shallow version of taking care of
yourself accomplish deep work in regards to your mental and emotional well-being
Step two is to be self aware most people don't even know that some of the things
that they're doing are destroying their life and they wonder their entire lives
why something feels wrong and why they're unhappy that's why it's so
important to be self aware I'm very grateful to be in a position where I am
someone who's always been self aware my depression or my suffering has just
really just kept me awake and conscious. Step 3 is to filter out negativity
and I know these tips are very simple and something
that almost everyone knows but I didn't know some of these things when I was
going through depression and when I was in that emo middle school phase. I used
to follow suicide and depression blogs on tumblr. I don't know why maybe it's
because I needed something to relate to I've unfollowed all of them several
years ago and I've cut out negative and toxic people in my life and I don't
listen to music or follow any kind of social media that is negatively
influencing my mind and make me question my self-worth and make me unhappy and
make me compare myself to other people. Less is more and minimize the
distractions in your life there's constant stimuli being thrown at our
faces: Be skinny! Be pretty! Buy this! Buy this! Go to college or else you're gonna
end up in a refrigerator box in a cold dark alley! You're not enough! You're
incomplete! You need a boyfriend or a girlfriend! You need another half to
complete you! Get. rid. of. it. and be very conscious of what you're allowing to
influence your mind and influence your life and that includes people.. that
includes the things that you see on the internet.. and the kind of thoughts that
you have even. Don't allow negative thoughts to dictate your life. You get to
decide how much it's gonna affect your life. Step 4 is to be kind to yourself
and I used to think bullying myself was a form of motivation and that it
motivated me to become more successful and to go out there, exercise, study, get
work done, but in the end (you know) all it did was destroy my self-esteem and it
did not help me accomplish my goals and this is why it's so important that every
time you make progress or you improve you praise yourself and you acknowledge
even the smallest bit of progress and productivity and consistency will become
addictive and almost.. it become one of the easiest things that
you do in your life and being mean to yourself should be on the same moral
level as hitting your children, kicking a dog, and bullying someone at school and
what's the difference between hurting someone else and hurting yourself
absolutely nothing and forgive yourself when you screw up because all of us are
going to screw up like a million times all of us even the best of us make the
worst mistakes it doesn't mean that you're not enough when you screw up it
means that you're human. Be your own best cheerleader. Step 5 is to change
your self-image and when you change your beliefs you change your thoughts and
when you change your thoughts you change your actions and when you change your
actions you change your habits and when you change your habits you change your
personality and finally when you change your personality you change your life
Say to yourself every day I'm a hard-working, diligent, powerful, reliable,
confident, fearless person. Write it on 10 different post-it notes and put it
everywhere you can see in the bathroom on your apartment or house door on your
bedroom door on your desk on your computer on your TV on your refrigerator
and make it a mantra. It's so important that you do this because the mind is
your most powerful tool and when your mind knows and thinks that you are an
incredible person with limitless potential that is the life that you're
going to create. This quote changed my life and it's that Lao Tzu said that
"When I let go of who I am, I become who I might be." and I've let go of that dark
negative cynical unhappy self-loathing Cherie, that self that I used to be, I've
let go of that years ago and I've become a
completely different person. This just has completely transformed my life
because I've been holding on to that identity of being an unhappy lazy
unproductive person my entire life. Ask yourself: Are you holding on to an
identity that is not serving you? That is causing you suffering? That isn't even
true because that identity of yours that you have of being a lazy unproductive
stupid worthless ugly person.. it's not even true. Those are not your own
thoughts. Those are not your own beliefs. Those are things that other people have
told you but you've allowed those other people to determine what your reality is
and determine the life that you're going to live. You don't need to let the
opinions of other people dictate your life. When you change your self-image, you
maximize your potential. I've already said this but we are capable of far more
than what we perceive and if that's the case we need to start believing. So start
believing. I'll see you in another video and I want to leave a small message for
Matt and say that thank you so much for your consistent support and I just look
forward to your comments and I really appreciate your constructive criticism
that you gave me a few days ago so yeah I'll see you in another video
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